Success = Learning from Whom + How to Practice


1.) King Philips was a womanizer. He was addicted to women. He married many women, he was not satisfied. He had many mistresses, nothing satisfied his lust for women. This was surely not a big problem for him, but it ended up to be a problem to his wives and mistresses who gave birth to his children. Philips had many legitimate and illegitimate sons and daughters. And he was a King. And every mother of his kids wanted the throne for their child!
Olympias was one of Philips’s wives and had one son. She was a practical woman. She knew that “the throne will not come to her son, but only he needs to go and get it!”
Unlike the other wives and mistresses, Olympias prepared her son right from an early age. She made him BELIEVE that he will be the next King and one day, an Emperor! She induced a big behaviour change in her child. She was treating him like a King.
But she also knew just because one believes he is a King doesnt mean he can become one. She knew that her son needs to learn a lot. More practical things from an experienced man. She did not want her son to become a womanizer like his father. So she went on search for a mentor. And she found Aristotle. Aristotle was the best student of Plato. Plato was a polymath, he wrote books about politics,love.etc etc. And Plato was the dearest student of Socrates!

With his mother’s confidence and his mentor’s teachings, no wonder the young boy became the next King at the age of 20 and also an Emperor who was called “Alexander The Great”.

2.) Every director admires the work of Alfred Hitchcock. His movies are really natural, totally out of box. His movies never communicated anything, his movies made people experience emotions.
When he was 6, his father sent him to the police station with a note. The inspector read the note and told him “You have been a very bad boy” and locked him up in a prison cell.
In a young age, Hitchcock was made to sit inside a cell. With so many scary huge authority figures near him. This made him think a lot. This brought him so many emotions. So many thoughts. This conditioned him!
Unlike other parents who beated or scolded their kids, Hitchcock’s dad made him feel emotions. His dad knew that physical and verbal arguments will only make Hitchcock rebellious. But putting him in a deep terror state conditioned him!
Hitchcock perfected this trick which he learned form his dad while growing up. He was able to put his actors in the same kind of state, using different techniques to different people. Other directors were scolding their actors but he was conditioning him. Before a movie Hitchcock will plan certain things, like making the actor stay in a hotel room for days without meeting anyone.etc etc. and induce emotions in the actor and condition them. Hitchcock directed his movies by teaching his actors, by inducing the feel of the movie in them. And this induced the feel of the movie in the audience!

3.) Unlike Hitchcock and Alexander, Siddharta Gautama Buddha didnt have a noteworthy person to mentor him. He had to learn from the most supreme teacher of all -> Life!
His goal was to find the meaning of life. He realised that material life is not everything and wanted to know the true meaning of life. He had no proper guide, he had to try them all. He tried the teachings of many sages, he experimented with Yoga, read the Vedic scriptures.etc etc.. He gained a vast knowledge and he also implemented them. And after so many years of experimenting which included rigourous physical activities. He went into a forest and comtemplated quietly. Conditioning his thoughts. Revising all his learnings and experience. He figured out what he wanted! He achieved his goal! He felt satisfaction! He felt completeness in his life! He achieved euphoria, which is a medically recognized human emotion which gives intense feelings of well-being, elation, happiness, excitement, and joy. At that time there were no medical research on it, he did not know that it was euphoria, he called it Enlightenment!

Conclusion:
In ancient times not everyone got a mentor like Aristotle, and even now not everyone gets a parent like Olympias or Hitchcock’s father, who were really practical.
In today’s world, we have access to different kind of mentors. We have books, Internet, Youtube Videos.etc etc.
So you need to go Siddharta’s way, you need to experiment. Spend time in developing yourself. Conditioning Yourself.

But remember! You are learning all by yourself, You dont have much time like Siddartha had. This is a modern fast moving world!. You need to be careful in choosing your mentors. You need to validate what you learn from a person or book.

Buddha said “Do not believe in anything simply because you have heard it. Do not believe in anything simply because it is spoken and rumored by many. Do not believe in anything simply because it is found written in your religious books. Do not believe in anything merely on the authority of your teachers and elders. Do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for many generations. But after observation and analysis, when you find that anything agrees with reason and is conducive to the good and benefit of one and all, then accept it and live up to it.”

Buddha thought material life is not the true meaning of life. Thats because he experienced everything!. In a young age he had access to rich food,clothes. He was a Prince! He had three castles. A Harem full of beautiful women. Married to a beautiful girl in the age of 16!. He experienced everything in a very young age! Of course material life bored him!. But you are not a Prince! So just dont blindly follow Buddha or anybody’s teachings. It worked for them, it doesnt mean it will work for you!. Buddha knows this, and thats why he said that statement that you read a few lines back!

Your success depends on what you learn from whom, and how you practice, no magic!

Courtesy: Million thanks to my friend Prithivi for sharing this…

Buddha’s Advice to Calm a Disturbed Mind


Once Buddha was walking from one town to another town with a few of his followers.. This was in the initial days. While they were traveling, they
happened to pass a lake. They stopped there and Buddha told one of his disciples, “I am thirsty. Do get me some water from that lake there.”

The disciple walked up to the lake. When he reached it, he noticed that right at that moment, a bullock cart started crossing through the lake. As a result, the water became very muddy, very turbid. The disciple thought, “How can I give this muddy water to Buddha to drink!”

So he came back and told Buddha, “The water in there is very muddy. I don’t think it is fit to drink.” After about half an hour, again Buddha asked the same disciple to go back to the lake and get him some water to drink. The disciple obediently went back to the lake.

This time too he found that the lake was muddy. He returned and informed Buddha about the same. After sometime, again Buddha asked the same disciple to go back. The disciple reached the lake to find the lake absolutely clean and clear with pure water in it. The mud had settled down and the water above it looked fit to be had. So he collected some water in a pot and brought it to Buddha.

Buddha looked at the water, and then he looked up at the disciple and said,” See what you did to make the water clean. You let it be…. and the mud settled down on its own – and you got clear water. Your mind is also like that! When it is disturbed, just let it be. Give it a little time. It will settle down on its own. You don’t have to put in any effort to calm it down. It will happen. It is effortless.

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A story from Buddha’s life…

Once Buddha was walking from one town to another town with a few of his followers. This was in the initial days. While they were travelling, they happened to pass a lake. They stopped there and Buddha told one of his disciples, “I am thirsty. Do get me some water from that lake there.”

The disciple walked up to the lake. When he reached it, he noticed that some people were washing clothes in the water, and right at that moment, a bullock cart started crossing through the lake. As a result, the water became very muddy, very turbid. The disciple thought, “How can I give this muddy water to Buddha to drink!” So he came back and told Buddha, “The water in there is very muddy. I don’t think it is fit to drink.”

After about half an hour, again Buddha asked the same disciple to go back to the lake and get him some water to drink. The disciple obediently went back to the lake. This time he found that the lake had absolutely clear water in it. The mud had settled down and the water above it looked fit to be had. So he collected some water in a pot and brought it to Buddha. Buddha looked at the water, and then he looked up at the disciple and said, “See what you did to make the water clean. You let it be…. and the mud settled down on its own – and you got clear water. Your mind is also like that! When it is disturbed, just let it be. Give it a little time. It will settle down on its own. You don’t have to put in any effort to calm it down. It will happen. It is effortless.” What did Buddha emphasize here? He said, “It is effortless.”

Having ‘Peace of Mind’ is not a strenuous job; it is an effortless process! When there is peace inside you, that peace permeates to the outside. It spreads around you and in the environment, such that people around start feeling that peace and grace.

Don’t keep distance

A saint asked his disciples, ‘Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?’

Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, ‘Because we lose our calm, we shout for that.’

‘But, why to shout when the other person is just next to you?’ asked the saint. ‘Isn’t it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? Why do you shout at a person when you’re angry?’

Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the saint.

Finally he explained, ‘When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other through that great distance.’

Then the saint asked, ‘What happens when two people fall in love? They don’t shout at each other but talk softly, why? Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small…’

The saint continued, ‘When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love.

Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that’s all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.’

 MORAL: When you argue do not let your hearts get distant, do not say words that distance each other more, else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.