I don’t know if life has come full circle. But it feels like I’m standing at a point where I can see the consequences of every seed once sown — even the ones I regret planting. Time, as they say, is a strange healer. It doesn’t erase the past, but it dulls the sting. The rage, the grief, the helpless ache… they slowly dissolve into a kind of quiet understanding.
But there are scars that no healing touches. Wounds inflicted long ago — not by enemies, but by those I once held close — they carved something permanent into me. Not like the betrayal that came 17 years ago.
Some say, “They’re suffering now. Maybe you could reach out. Offer help. Give solace. Be the bigger person.”
And honestly? I could. By God’s grace, I now stand in a place where I can offer help — financially, emotionally, morally. I’ve walked through fire and come out carrying water. I *could* be that person. But my heart whispers otherwise.
Because some things are not meant to be mended.
There’s a saying in Tamil: **“Pambukku paal vaikkaradhu.”** You don’t offer milk to a snake. Not out of vengeance, but out of wisdom. Some people aren’t meant to return to your life — not because you wish them harm, but because they once destroyed what was sacred. Trust. Friendship. Brotherhood.
What God took away, He did for a reason. And what He gave in return — new people, real allies, relationships born in fire and forged in loyalty — they are my true blessings. I don’t curse the ones who broke me. I don’t wish ruin upon them. But I won’t let them walk back in either.
I’ve made peace, yes. But peace doesn’t mean reunion.
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Karma and Justice: A Conversation with My Scars
I grew up hearing the phrase “justice delayed is justice denied.” In my younger days, it sounded so powerful, so sharp — a perfect line to quote when you felt wronged or betrayed.
I believed justice meant someone should pay for hurting me, and they should pay now. I carried this belief with me, holding it close every time I felt cheated or double-crossed.
When I was betrayed, I felt an almost animal-like hunger for revenge. I would replay moments in my head, craft imaginary confrontations, and wish that karma would strike them down while I was still raw and bleeding.
But as time passed, something changed.
Life didn’t stop for my pain. The people who hurt me moved on, sometimes even seeming happier than before. I stayed stuck in a loop of anger, frustration, and helplessness, waiting for karma to arrive like a superhero and save me from my inner chaos.
Years later, karma finally did visit them. Two of the people who had hurt me so deeply faced their consequences — harshly. But by then, something unexpected had happened to me: I had healed.
When I heard about their downfall, it felt like reading an old news headline. There was no thrill, no moment of triumph, no fireworks. Just a quiet nod inside me, as if my soul whispered, “See? Life balances itself.”
In that moment, I realized: karma is not my personal lawyer. It’s not designed to heal my wounds or bring me peace. It’s not even meant to satisfy my sense of timing.
Unlike our legal system, where “justice delayed is justice denied” because victims need relief here and now, karma operates on a different plane altogether. Karma doesn’t arrive on our schedule. It doesn’t rush to fix our pain. Instead, it patiently restores balance in its own mysterious, universal way.
By the time karma acts, the raw wound has already become a scar. And when it does, it often feels like a distant echo rather than the roaring justice I once imagined.
I used to think that if karma didn’t act fast enough, it was as good as denied. But today, I see it differently. Karma is not about me; it is about the larger flow of life, the unseen balance sheet of actions and consequences that spans beyond my small circle of feelings.
Looking back, I understand now that healing was never karma’s job. Healing was mine. Karma didn’t come to save me — I had to save myself, stitch up my own wounds, and learn to walk forward carrying my scars with pride.
Those scars? They’ve taught me more than any revenge ever could. They taught me resilience, boundaries, patience, and — above all — the power of moving on.
So today, when I think about those who wronged me and finally “paid” for it, I feel nothing more than a gentle nod to the universe: Thank you for doing your part. I had already done mine.
What I’ve learned
- Don’t wait for karma to heal you.
- Don’t put your peace on hold waiting for someone else to fall.
- Your healing is your responsibility; karma is just the universe keeping its own books.
In short
“Justice delayed is justice denied” is about human systems.
“Karma delayed” is not karma denied — because karma is not about providing you justice, but about cosmic balance.
From Wounds to Scars: A Lesson in Karma and Healing
There was a time when betrayal felt like an open wound. When someone cheated or double-crossed me, I didn’t just feel hurt, I felt an almost animalistic urge for revenge. I wanted blood. I wanted them to feel the pain I was going through.
Other times, I felt like a helpless victim. I moved away quietly, carrying my heartbreak and frustration like a heavy bag I couldn’t put down. And as I carried it, that pain slowly turned into a deep sense of anger, depression, and a silent scream that no one else could hear.
Years passed. The sharpness of those wounds dulled. They turned into scars, they are always there, but no longer bleeding. Life went on, and I learned to walk forward with those scars stitched into my story.
And then, life did something unexpected.
Within this year, two of the people who had wronged me, the very people I once wanted revenge against had finally faced the consequences of their actions. Karma, as we like to call it, had arrived.
But here’s the surprising part: it didn’t make me feel victorious. It didn’t bring me the happiness or relief I thought I’d feel a decade ago when those wounds were raw.
Instead, it felt like reading a piece of news. Just information. A passing moment of, Oh, I see. Life has its own way of balancing things out.
I realized something important in that moment:
I had outgrown my need for revenge.
Back then, revenge felt like the only closure that could heal me. But healing never really waited for karma. Healing happened inside me, as I moved forward and rebuilt myself piece by piece.
Karma didn’t come to heal me; it simply came to do its job. The person I am today is no longer the same person who once stayed up at night imagining ways to “even the score.” Today, I find peace in knowing that I survived, that I grew stronger, and that my life is no longer defined by those betrayals.
The scars? They remain. But they are no longer a source of pain, they are reminders of how far I’ve come.
If karma had arrived ten years ago, it might have felt like a victory. Today, it feels like a gentle whisper from the universe: “Keep going. You’re already free.”
Don’t wait for karma to heal you.
Don’t wait for someone else to hurt for you to move forward.
Your healing is yours — and the most powerful revenge is to build a life so full that you no longer look back waiting for justice.
What Is Karma Cleansing? And Why Do Good People Get Cheated?
Why do bad things happen to good people?
Why do cheaters prosper and the loyal ones suffer?
Enter: Karma cleansing, a spiritual and emotional practice that doesn’t erase the past, but helps free you from its grip.
What Is Karma Cleansing?
Karma cleansing is the process of releasing negative emotional, mental, and spiritual baggage from past actions, yours or others, so you stop carrying cycles of pain into your future. It doesn’t mean ignoring what happened. It means you don’t let it define you anymore.
Just like physical detox clears toxins, karma cleansing is about cutting karmic ties to those who wronged you — not to forgive them for their sake, but to free yourself from them.
Why Are There Cheaters and Cheated?
In a fair world, you’d expect balance. But reality isn’t always fair, it’s karmic.
> Some people cheat because they haven’t evolved yet.
> Some people get cheated on because they’re strong enough to grow through it.
It doesn’t justify betrayal. But it gives it context. Sometimes, your pain is not your punishment — it’s your push toward transformation. You’re clearing something deeper than just this life.
How Karma Cleansing Helps
- Breaks emotional loops of revenge or resentment
- Brings clarity: “It was their lesson, not my worth”
- Helps stop attracting the same pain again
Creates space for better relationships and energy.
You don’t have to “let it go” overnight. But you can begin to let it go from you.
Final Thought
If you’re reading this and you’ve been betrayed or hurt by someone who had no reason to hurt you, know this:
Their karma is theirs. Yours is how you rise, heal, and stop carrying their poison in your heart.
Let karma cleanse, not consume. 🌙
AnandNataraj 