In Indian arranged marriages, your first meeting with your future wife often happens in a temple, surrounded by her relatives and yours, all watching closely. When I first met my wife like this, I didn’t make any big promises. I just told her honestly that entrepreneurship was my passion and that I would need her extra support to succeed.
She agreed. We got married. And for the first six years, it felt like life had blessed us. The business was thriving, money was flowing, and the house was filled with laughter. In those days, support was easy because success made everything look shiny.
But the real test of any relationship isn’t when you’re flying high — it’s when you crash.
When business challenges started piling up, everything changed. Debts, setbacks, betrayals — my dream began to crumble, and with it, so did the sense of security in our home.
Yet, she stood by me. She didn’t pack her bags or run away. In fact, after an eight-year career gap spent raising our kids, she took up a job to support the family. That move alone deserves more respect than any applause I’ve ever received in my entrepreneurial journey.
But support has layers. While she stood strong on the outside, inside there were storms. She wanted me to take up a job, to drop the dream, to “be practical” for the sake of the family. There were fights, emotional distance, and moments when we felt like strangers living under the same roof.
From her side, it made sense. She saw stability as love, and she believed protecting the kids from uncertainty was her duty. From her view, why should anyone hold on to a passion so stubbornly when it meant risking everything?
From my side, quitting wasn’t an option. Entrepreneurship wasn’t a hobby — it was who I am. If I gave up on it, I wouldn’t just lose a business; I would lose myself. I believed true happiness can exist even in simplicity or poverty, as long as you’re true to your soul’s calling.
I often asked myself: *Who is cruel here? Who is right?*
The truth is, neither of us was wrong. We were just two people trying to survive in our own ways. She fought for emotional and financial security; I fought for identity and purpose.
Marriage is often painted as a journey of compromise. But sometimes, it’s a silent negotiation between two very different worlds: passion and practicality.
She may never fully understand why I chose to stay on this rocky path. And I may never fully understand her fear of instability. But in those differences, there’s a story of two people who didn’t give up on each other — even when they didn’t fully agree.
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When Help Comes with a Cost
There’s no denying that receiving help from someone who genuinely cares about you is a wonderful feeling. It can give you a sense of security and comfort knowing that you have someone you can turn to when you need it the most. However, what happens when that help comes with a cost?
When someone offers you help, it’s natural to assume that they have your best interests at heart. However, what if that help comes with unsolicited advice, constant nagging, and a complete disregard for your boundaries? What do you do then?
It’s easy to feel trapped in a situation like this, especially when the person helping you has been a lifeline during your time of need. But, it’s important to remember that just because someone helps you, it doesn’t give them the right to overstep your boundaries or ignore your wishes.
Setting boundaries with someone who has helped you can be challenging. The first step is to recognize that you have the right to set boundaries and that it’s essential for your mental health and well-being. If someone is making you feel uncomfortable or is causing you distress, it’s important to communicate that to them in a respectful manner.
However, sometimes, despite our best efforts, the other person may not be willing to listen. In situations like these, it’s essential to seek outside help. Talk to a trusted friend who can offer you guidance and support.
Last but not least, receiving help from someone is a beautiful thing, but it should never come with a price. It’s essential to recognize your boundaries and communicate them effectively to the person helping you. If they continue to ignore your boundaries despite your efforts, it’s important to seek outside help. Always remember that you have the right to live your life on your terms, and no one has the right to take that away from you.