Today was one of those unexpectedly perfect days. I finally met Ajith after 13 long years. Honestly, I don’t even know how these years flew by — it felt like we were still on that Bangalore drive, debating random life topics and making a pit stop at midnight in McDonald’s Sulagiri.
Ajith took the initiative to set this up (big thanks, buddy!), and he also introduced me to TAKKT Southern Cafe & Kombucha. What a fun, happening place right in our own backyard! The kombucha? Absolutely fantastic — like a refreshing plot twist in a boring daily routine.
It felt nice to see that he has also given up a few things in life, just like I did. Maybe that’s why old friends feel special — they remind you of who you were and show parts of yourself you might have forgotten.
We covered everything today: work stories, personal struggles and joys from these 13 years, a little astrology (yes, Saturn in the 8th house still keeping life spicy), and plenty of those “just because” stories that have no start or end.
Thank you again, Ajith, for pulling me out and for the kombucha initiation. Let’s make sure we don’t wait another 13 years — next time, maybe a road trip, or even better, some divine temple trail to balance all this cosmic karma.
From Sleepovers to Missed Calls: Growing Up and Growing Apart

I come from an era when summer vacations meant stuffing myself with mangoes at cousins’ houses and fighting over who got to sleep next to the window.
Back then, we didn’t need fancy resorts or curated “experiences.” One friend’s terrace and a big steel tiffin box full of lemon rice did the job. We treated our friends’ parents like our own, and their mothers scolded us with such love and ownership, you’d think we came as part of the house package.
We finished our academics around 2000, all wide-eyed and curious about the future.
Some started with direct selling or handing out credit card applications in front of Saravana Stores — anything to avoid asking Appa for bus money.
By 2005, most of us had found jobs. From 2005 to 2012 (the year I got married), we were all busy “swiping right” in real life — running around for alliances, comparing horoscopes, and attending those awkward first meets where coffee tasted like tension.
Then came the kid marathon.
My second child was born in 2019. One of my best buddies, Vignesh, had his kid in 2020 — the final entry in our “Gen 1.0” batch.
Now, we’ve entered a new phase of life.
The same guys who once debated which cricket bat brand was best are now arguing about NEET coaching vs. coding classes.
We’ve moved from cycle races to chasing after school buses in the rain.
We want to hang out, but life says, “Sorry, today is fully booked with PTMs, grocery bills, and last-minute school project hunts.”
Last week, Vignesh came to India after ages. We managed just one hour together, squeezed between his kid’s nap schedule and my quick stop to buy vegetables.
I wanted to pour out my struggles, share my small wins, and dive deep into those “bro talks” that heal more than any medicine. But life had other plans and threw us back into separate lanes before we could even warm up.
We stay connected — thanks to Instagram stories and “Good morning” WhatsApp groups — but the emotional distance? That’s the new unspoken reality.
Looking back, it feels like life pressed the fast-forward button on us. We went from fighting over who would run up and twist the channel dial like we were defusing a bomb — to fighting over time slots in our own calendars.
Sometimes, I wish we could all pause. Sit on that same terrace again. No deadlines, no work calls, no worries about kids’ exams or cholesterol levels.
We grew up together, but somewhere along the way, life grew between us.
Startups Then & Now: From Empty Streets to Crowded Highways

I started my entrepreneurial ride back in 2000.
Those days, we didn’t even call it a “startup.” We called it “business,” “consultancy,” or just “trying something on my own.”
There was no Shark Tank. No glossy LinkedIn posts with #hustle. No college workshops on “How to pitch to VCs.”
In 2000, entrepreneurship wasn’t a cool badge. It was something you did if you couldn’t find a job or if you were just stubborn enough to believe you could create something from nothing.
2000: Wild, open roads
- No references for success. The word “startup” was so rare, only one in a lakh even dared to dream it.
- Loyalty was real. Your first hire stayed not just for salary but for the dream, even if the office was a one-room setup with plastic chairs and Maaza bottles in the fridge.
- Markets were raw. Everything was new and waiting. A simple website could make you look like a global player.
- Corporates & tech were immature. Big companies were still figuring out email, and many had no clue how to use the internet beyond sending scanned copies of invoices.
- Open source was magic. You could build a product for the price of a few nights of filter coffee.
- Ecosystem? Nil. No accelerators, no pitch fests, no “startup India” subsidies. Just you, your idea, and sheer guts.
- Limited resources, big possibilities. Everything felt like a blank canvas.
2025: Crowded highways
- Startup became a fashion statement. Every Tom, Dick, and Harry wants to “launch something” — sometimes just to add “Founder” to their Instagram bio.
- Expensive game. Startups today mean burn rates, seed funding rounds, CAC vs LTV debates — even before you have your first paying customer.
- No loyalty. Employees switch for a ₹2,000 raise or a fancier “Head of Vibe” title.
- Tech consolidation. The top 5 tech giants dictate tools, languages, and frameworks. Your “freedom to build” has a Terms & Conditions page.
- Market consolidation. Big sharks have gobbled up fragmented small players. Niches get crushed before you even announce your beta.
- Ecosystem overload. Events, podcasts, awards, startup conferences. Everyone is “networking,” but very few are really building.
- Too many eyes, less patience. Today, if your product doesn’t go viral in 2 weeks, you’re labeled a flop.
Then vs Now: What’s the real deal?
In 2000, the road was empty and scary.
In 2025, the road is crowded and noisy.
Then, the challenge was survival in the unknown.
Now, the challenge is standing out in the overcrowded known.
Then, it was about creating a market.
Now, it’s about finding your slot in a saturated market.
Then, you worried about paying your first employee on time.
Now, you worry if your pitch deck slides have enough “impact words.”
But here’s the one thing that hasn’t changed:
The thrill of chasing a vision that only you can see.
Whether you’re hustling on a dusty internet café PC in 2000 or pitching on a Zoom call in 2025 — the soul of entrepreneurship remains the same:
A quiet voice inside that whispers, “Let’s try anyway.“
“Markets change. Tech evolves. But courage? That stays timeless.”
The Silent War After Failure

I used to think failure was about numbers like losing money, shutting down a company, or missing targets. But real failure? It’s when you lose yourself.
After my own setback, I noticed something strange. It wasn’t just that I didn’t have work. It was that I couldn’t feel like working anymore. The spark that once lit me up like brainstorming at midnight, building teams, scaling products — it didn’t even create a flicker inside me.
I kept asking myself: Why can’t I just pick up something small and start? Why can’t I push through?
The truth hit me like a late-night punch: I had evolved. What excited me before simply didn’t feel meaningful anymore.
When you’ve built something big, your mind builds an invisible yardstick. You unconsciously measure every new idea against your past success. You remember the energy of a big team, the rush of growth charts, the adrenaline of new hires and expansions.
Now, when you try to start something small — a side gig, a consulting call, a tiny digital product — it feels like throwing pebbles after you’ve once launched rockets. You feel silly, almost embarrassed to call it “work.”
But it doesn’t stop there. Your entire identity gets woven into your career. Your “I am” statement was always followed by what you built or led. When that structure crumbles, it cracks you right at the core. You’re not just jobless; you feel nameless.
The worst part? You can’t even explain it to anyone. Friends and family might say, “Do something small! Just start anywhere!” They mean well. But they don’t realize you’re battling an invisible ghost inside — a ghost that constantly whispers, “You’re not enough anymore.”
I lived this. Every single hour felt heavy, every day felt like pushing through fog. I knew I should act, but the energy just wasn’t there.
I’m still figuring it out. I don’t have a grand conclusion yet. Maybe one day I will.
Sometimes the hardest comeback isn’t in the world outside — it’s in the quiet corner of your mind where your old self still lives.
Back to Basics: Trading Luxury for Life
If there’s one year I’d choose to fix in time — to bottle and revisit — it’s 2009.
Before that, life was an extravaganza. Between 2004 and 2008, I lived like there was no tomorrow. I got the first iPhone within a week of its US launch and mind you, it wasn’t even available in India. We jailbroke it, flaunted it. I wore branded sunglasses, high-end clothes, and indulged in a lifestyle that spelled luxury in bold letters.
Then came 2009.
I moved to Madurai, a city that felt more like a giant village than a bustling metropolis like Chennai. Suddenly, my world shrank. I swapped my shiny iPhone for a humble ₹1,000 Nokia. The car keys went into a drawer; I embraced crowded government buses and dusty auto rides. No more branded merchandise. No more air-conditioned comfort zones.
For the first time, I lived away from my parents. Rent? Just ₹3,000 on Bypass Road. Dining out? Almost every eatery was unbelievably cheap and the city had only two “posh” hotels: Pandian Hotel and Taj Pasumalai, meant for the affluent. I never set foot in them that year.
My weekends turned into quiet adventures: bus rides to Coimbatore, Kanyakumari, Thoothukudi, Munnar. With each journey, I peeled away another layer of comfort and rediscovered my resilience.
It was emotionally and financially tough. But here’s what matters most: I stuck to my resolution every single day, for the entire 365 days of 2009. I didn’t slip, didn’t compromise.
The year wasn’t great or something I long to relive. I don’t romanticize it. I simply cherish it for challenging myself with discomfort and for fulfilling that promise to myself completely.
Looking back today, I’m amazed that I really did it. I gave up all my comforts, chose a simple life, and stayed true to it for the whole year.
2009 wasn’t just another year. It was a fresh start, tough but real.
What Is Karma Cleansing? And Why Do Good People Get Cheated?

Why do bad things happen to good people?
Why do cheaters prosper and the loyal ones suffer?
Enter: Karma cleansing, a spiritual and emotional practice that doesn’t erase the past, but helps free you from its grip.
What Is Karma Cleansing?
Karma cleansing is the process of releasing negative emotional, mental, and spiritual baggage from past actions, yours or others, so you stop carrying cycles of pain into your future. It doesn’t mean ignoring what happened. It means you don’t let it define you anymore.
Just like physical detox clears toxins, karma cleansing is about cutting karmic ties to those who wronged you — not to forgive them for their sake, but to free yourself from them.
Why Are There Cheaters and Cheated?
In a fair world, you’d expect balance. But reality isn’t always fair, it’s karmic.
> Some people cheat because they haven’t evolved yet.
> Some people get cheated on because they’re strong enough to grow through it.
It doesn’t justify betrayal. But it gives it context. Sometimes, your pain is not your punishment — it’s your push toward transformation. You’re clearing something deeper than just this life.
How Karma Cleansing Helps
- Breaks emotional loops of revenge or resentment
- Brings clarity: “It was their lesson, not my worth”
- Helps stop attracting the same pain again
Creates space for better relationships and energy.
You don’t have to “let it go” overnight. But you can begin to let it go from you.
Final Thought
If you’re reading this and you’ve been betrayed or hurt by someone who had no reason to hurt you, know this:
Their karma is theirs. Yours is how you rise, heal, and stop carrying their poison in your heart.
Let karma cleanse, not consume. 🌙
The Garage Dream by the Sea: Two Years That Built a Legacy
Between September 2002 and September 2004, we built something unforgettable. Our office wasn’t in a fancy building or a posh tech park. It was tucked inside a TNHB quarters apartment in Valmiki Nagar, Kottivakkam. But for us, it felt like Silicon Valley.
Renting that space with self-earned money brought a satisfaction that can’t be fully put into words—it was something only a hustler’s heart could feel.
We began as a humble team of 8, packed with energy, grit, and ideas. Within two years, we had grown into a 40-member unit that breathed ambition. We set up everything ourselves—our very own Samba server, our desks, our dreams. Vel Sir stood by us, offering assembled computers on credit when funds were tight. We didn’t have an air conditioner when we started; the heat from the Chennai sun and CRT monitors turned the place into a furnace. But we endured.
We hustled in sweat, but not in despair.
Slowly, we upgraded—one A/C at a time. We set up a tiny kitchen for tea and coffee. We insisted that everyone must volunteer to prepare coffee or tea in that kitchen. Many resisted in the beginning. But soon, everyone took their turn—each cup brewed with pride, with patience. That pantry transformed into our bonding zone, our ritual, our daily pause between lines of code.
Every milestone—big or small—was celebrated with team lunches. From every corner restaurant in Besant Nagar to the iconic joints in Adyar, we made those places our own.
I practically lived in that office. My routine? Wake up at 5 AM, dash home to shower, and be back by 7:30. The location was a dream in itself—sea-facing, serene, and soul-fueling. The Sindoor Sea Club next door lit up weekends, Diwalis, and New Year’s Eves. I walked the beach to stay fit. I walked it again at midnight to clear my mind.

There were nights I rode solo on my Calibre bike from Valmiki Nagar to Mahabalipuram. Back then, ECR after 8 PM was a ghost road—no streetlights, no traffic, no cops, not even open tea stalls. But I needed that silence. That solitude was therapy.
Night shows at Prarthana or Mayajaal were my release. The rest of the time, we were a silent storm—working with focus, building in stealth. No one believed in us yet, but we did. We learned to smile through the struggle, to lead without applause, to hustle without hashtags.
There were times when the weight of challenges felt unbearable. But that location, that ocean breeze, those midnight drives—they helped me breathe, helped me bounce back.
Those two years weren’t just about building a company. They were about building character.
Where is my Madras?
I was born in Madras. Not Chennai. Madras.
Chennai is just the name. Madras — that is my emotion. It wasn’t just a city. It was the BGM of my childhood, the stage of my teenage dreams, and the silent witness to my becoming. But today, as I walk through these same streets, I search for my Madras — and I can’t find her. What I see now is a city that has transformed so much, it’s almost as if it forgot who it used to be.
I remember the theatres first. They were temples of wonder.
Alankar Theatre — where I watched every Jackie Chan movie as a wide-eyed kid, snuggled between my parents. From King Solomon’s Mines to Thunderbolt, it was our Sunday ritual, our adventure time. Then came Anand & Little Anand, where I saw Nayagan and Jallikattu with my dad, and Malabar Police with my college buddies. Every show had a memory etched beside it.
Melody Theatre — if it was a Hindi movie, that’s where we went. My mom adored Hindi films, and my dad made sure we saw them all. From Dil to Hum to Baazi, Melody was a family tradition. The last I remember watching there was in 2007 — and then, like everything else, it quietly disappeared.
Then came the dream that never faded: Prarthana Drive-in. As a kid, I heard stories about watching movies from a car. I never went. But once I started my own company near Thiruvanmiyur, I finally did — Kadhal Konden and Anbe Sivam. I didn’t have a car then. I sat on a plastic chair and watched, envious of those inside cars, feeling like I had arrived late to a dream. When I was stressed, I would go there alone, escape for a while, then return to work. A year later, things changed. I went there in a car, and took my cousins too — because they deserved to live that dream.
Udayam. Chandran. Sooriyan: These theatres were where I watched movies solo, with schoolmates, with my parents. They were razed just three months ago — like someone ripped out a part of my diary.
But Madras wasn’t just cinema. It was culture, bookstores, summer escapes.
Landmark: My hideout since 1995. I went there to beat the heat, to explore music, to touch books, to discover authors who sowed the seeds of entrepreneurship in me. It wasn’t a store — it was a sanctuary.
The Park Sheraton: Youthful nights at Dublin, celebrating Dhoni’s T20 World Cup win. That place was our escape, our celebration spot.
Luz Shanthi Sagar for chats. Dasa Prakash for cherry milk and green-pea sandwiches. The roadside podi dosa at Brilliant Tutorials. These weren’t just eateries — they were memories made edible.
I grew up on North Parade Road, in my grandmother’s house. The Malai Thiruvizha was a grand celebration then. Shops would stretch from Kathipara all the way to the Cantonment marriage hall. Today, that grand procession is reduced to the narrow streets around St. Thomas Mount. The horse stud at Alandur, where my parents would walk me, feed me snacks, and let me play — now stands a metro station.
The park where I once learned how to swing? It’s a turf now — professional, synthetic, and soulless.
Chennai has grown. Expanded. Boomed. But in doing so, it has wiped clean the chalkboard of memories. It has replaced nostalgia with glass towers, warmth with air-conditioning, and stories with speed.
I’m not against progress. But what do you do when progress forgets its past?
I don’t want a Madras frozen in time. I just want a city that remembers.
Because I remember. And I still miss her.
Where is my Madras?
In search of gold, I lost my diamond.

The Longest Tunnel: My 25-Year Journey of Building, Falling, and Rising Again

In the year 2000, I was just like any other young dreamer — ambitious, hungry, and fiercely determined to make something out of nothing. With no background, no safety nets, and no rich godfathers, I dived headfirst into entrepreneurship. The odds were stacked high against me, but my passion was louder than my doubts.
For the next four years, I worked relentlessly — often 20 hours a day — building my business from scratch. There was no playbook, no shortcut, only sweat and stubborn discipline. Slowly, things began to move. Projects started flowing in, my team grew, my confidence soared. Life was unfolding like a dream.
Then came a phase where everything sparkled. I found success not just in my business, but also in my personal life. There was companionship, laughter, travels, late-night talks, dreams shared under starlit skies, and moments that seemed timeless. Money flowed easily; lifestyle followed. People admired the empire I was building, and secretly envied the life I was living. It felt like I had finally arrived.
But life — or rather, karma — has its own clock.
In 2008, the very foundation I had built with years of devotion cracked overnight. The people I trusted most, professionally and personally, made choices that blindsided me. It was not just the collapse of a company; it was the collapse of trust, of friendship, of dreams shared, and of innocence itself. The empire I built was no longer mine. My reputation was questioned. I was left watching my life’s work slip through my fingers, powerless.
And that’s when the real test began.
The years that followed were brutal. The world, which once cheered me on, now whispered behind my back. Some said I was a fluke, that my success was never mine to begin with. Society is strangely cruel to the ones who fall — they romanticize rise stories but quietly enjoy the falls. I was no longer the hero in people’s eyes — just another “lesson” they discussed at dinner tables.
But here’s what many didn’t see: while the world was mocking, life was cleansing me. Karmic debts have strange ways of collecting. Every bit of pain, betrayal, and humiliation was part of a larger cleansing — one that stripped me of all ego, all illusions, all attachments.
The betrayal of trusted people was painful, yes. But in hindsight, they were simply playing their part in my karmic script. They were not my enemies; they were my catalysts. My breaking wasn’t my end — it was my purification.
As years passed, my life kept shrinking — financially, emotionally, and socially. I lost most of my investments. Debts piled up. Credit cards defaulted. Even my family, who once celebrated my wins, started losing hope. I could feel their judgment — the silent disappointment that weighed heavier than any words they could say.
Between 2020 and 2022, things hit rock bottom. The financial strain was suffocating. The mental fog was worse. I couldn’t think clearly. Ideas wouldn’t stick. Words wouldn’t form. Some days I couldn’t even gather the strength to explain what I was going through. I was sinking — and I knew it.
But somewhere inside, a small flame refused to die.
In 2023, that flame finally found its way back to air. A property I had invested in years ago — my studio apartments — started generating steady rental income. For the first time in years, I felt breath returning to my lungs. Slowly, I began clearing debts that once seemed impossible to handle. The suffocating grip of money started to loosen.
I started small again — tiny investments into markets, baby steps into rebuilding my financial base. It wasn’t dramatic. It wasn’t glamorous. But it was real. With every small repayment, with every small win, I could feel my mind returning, my clarity sharpening.
Now, as I stand in 2025, I’m not the man I was in 2004. I’m not even the man I was in 2008. I carry scars, yes — but I carry wisdom too. The kind of wisdom you don’t get from books or mentors, but only from walking through your personal hell.
I learned that wealth built without wisdom will collapse. I learned that relationships built on illusions will betray. I learned that real strength comes from standing alone when no one claps for you.
And most importantly — I learned that hope is a good thing.
Because no matter how dark the tunnel is, no matter how long it stretches, if you keep walking, the light always finds you.
I’m 45 now. The world would say I’m starting late. But I know better.
I’m not starting late.
I’m starting clean.

Hope is a good thing.
And good things never die.
How I Navigated a Legal Summon: A Learning Experience

In the course of our lives, especially in business or public dealings, we may encounter situations that test our understanding of law and procedure. I recently faced one such situation that offered deeper insights into how our legal system functions.
A few months ago, I received a police summon asking me to appear for an enquiry. Such summons naturally create anxiety. It was issued under Sections 91 and 160 of the Criminal Procedure Code (CrPC). While I have always respected legal processes, I wanted to fully understand the basis of this summon before responding.
After consulting legal experts and doing some personal research, I learned:
Section 91 CrPC allows the police or court to request documents or objects necessary for an investigation. It’s a tool to gather evidence, not to summon individuals for questioning unless specific documents are needed.
Section 160 CrPC permits police to summon witnesses for questioning only after an FIR (First Information Report) is registered. Without an FIR, this section cannot be used to call individuals for enquiry.
In my case, no FIR had been registered. The summon was purely based on a complaint filed by a third party, without any formal case initiated.
With this understanding, I approached the Madurai Bench of the Madras High Court. My counsel cited relevant legal precedents, including a 2004 judgment (Prakash Transports vs. Inspector of Police), which clearly states that without an FIR, police summons under these sections are invalid.
The Hon’ble Judge reviewed the facts and ruled in my favor. The summon was quashed, and the matter was closed. This reaffirmed a simple principle: law provides protection when we are aware of our rights and act within the system.
Legal systems exist to protect, but we must stay informed. This experience, while unsettling at first, became a valuable learning milestone.
Stay aware. Stay prepared.