Tag: fear

When Control Slips Away, Fear Steps In


I’ve always believed fear doesn’t come from ghosts in the dark or thunder in the skies. Fear creeps in when you realize life is no longer in your hands — when control quietly slips away.

I felt it most sharply during the two years my dad was hospitalized. Suddenly, the reins of my father’s life weren’t in my grip — they were in the hands of doctors and fate. Every beeping machine, every delayed report, every late-night call felt like a reminder that I had no say in what would happen next. That helplessness was fear in its purest form.

I felt it again during the late evenings when most of my friends were getting married. I feared loneliness — not because I didn’t want marriage, but because it was not in my control. No matter how much I tried, the timelines didn’t align with my wishes. The steering wheel of my life seemed hijacked by something larger.

Legal battles brought their own flavor of fear. I might have been the one fighting, but the reality was — attorneys, judges, and systems controlled the pace and outcome. I was just a passenger waiting at every bend.

And that’s the cruel trick of fear — it feeds on our urge to control. The more we cling to it, the tighter fear grips us.

What I’ve Learned

You can’t control everything. What you can do is:

  • Prepare yourself mentally to accept uncertainty instead of resisting it.
  • Focus on your response, not the situation — resilience is the only lever you always own.

Because at the end of the day, fortune favours the bold.

Love and Fear: The Battle Within a Coward’s Heart


As a coward, expressing love can be an extremely difficult task. Love requires vulnerability and courage, both of which can be very intimidating for someone who is naturally inclined towards fear and avoidance. It’s not that cowards are incapable of feeling love; it’s just that they struggle to express it in the way that they want to.

For me, expressing love has always been a daunting prospect. I have always been afraid of rejection and the potential for hurt that comes with putting oneself out there. As a result, I have often found myself holding back my feelings, afraid of what might happen if I were to reveal them. This has caused me a great deal of pain over the years, as I have watched opportunities for love slip away because I was too afraid to take the risk.

It’s not that I don’t feel love deeply. I do, and it’s a wonderful feeling. The problem is that my fear of rejection and my tendency to avoid confrontation make it difficult for me to express that love in a way that feels authentic and meaningful. Instead, I find myself resorting to small gestures and platitudes, hoping that they will be enough to convey what I am feeling.

Unquenchable Desires: Navigating the Joy and Pain of Love


Love is a powerful emotion that can make us feel both joy and pain. It can be difficult to express our feelings to someone, especially if we fear rejection. When unquenchable desires keep appearing, they can pierce our hearts and leave us feeling scared and vulnerable.

For me, expressing my love is like walking on a tightrope. It takes courage and a leap of faith to tell someone how I feel, but the fear of rejection can be paralyzing. I stir her name every day in my soul, but the trial she walks is like a shadow that I can never catch.

The hesitation in expressing my love is like a heavy weight on my chest. It’s as if I’m constantly holding my breath, waiting for the right moment to exhale. But the longer I wait, the harder it becomes. The dumbness and infatuation are like two halves that keep killing me every day.

Perceive Without Quitting: Understanding Failure as a Step Before Success


Success is often seen as the ultimate goal, the pinnacle of our achievements. We strive for it, work towards it, and celebrate it when we reach it. But what about failure? We tend to see it as the opposite of success, something to avoid at all costs. But what if I told you that failure is actually a step before success? That it can be a valuable learning experience that propels you forward towards your goals? In this blog post, we’ll explore the idea that failure is not something to fear, but something to embrace and learn from.

Firstly, let’s define failure. Failure is simply not achieving the desired outcome. It’s important to note that failure is not a reflection of your worth as a person. We all fail at some point in our lives, and it’s how we respond to failure that makes all the difference. The fear of failure can be paralyzing, but if we shift our mindset and see failure as an opportunity to learn and grow, we can use it to our advantage.

One of the greatest benefits of failure is that it teaches us resilience. When we fail, we experience disappointment, frustration, and even embarrassment. But if we can pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, and keep going, we become more resilient. Resilience is the ability to bounce back from setbacks and keep moving forward. It’s an essential quality for success in any area of life, and failure can help us develop it.

Another benefit of failure is that it can lead to creativity and innovation. When we’re faced with a challenge and our first attempt fails, we’re forced to think outside the box and come up with new ideas. This process of trial and error can lead to breakthroughs and new discoveries. Many of the world’s greatest inventors and innovators experienced failure before achieving success.

Lastly, failure can teach us important lessons. When we fail, we have the opportunity to reflect on what went wrong and how we can do better next time. This process of self-reflection and learning is crucial for personal growth and development. It allows us to identify our strengths and weaknesses and work on improving ourselves.

In conclusion, failure is not something to fear or avoid, but something to embrace and learn from. It can teach us resilience, lead to creativity and innovation, and help us learn important lessons. Remember that failure is a step before success, and don’t give up on your goals just because you experience setbacks. Persevere, learn from your failures, and keep moving forward. With this mindset, you’ll be well on your way to achieving success

The Stigma of Failure: Society’s Treatment of Those Who Have Fallen Short


Failure is not inherently a dogma, but it can often be perceived as such in certain societies or cultural contexts. This is because success is often highly valued and celebrated, while failure is seen as a negative outcome. As a result, people who fail to achieve their goals or experience setbacks may be stigmatized or treated poorly by others.

However, it’s important to recognize that failure is a natural part of life and can actually be a valuable learning experience. Many successful individuals have experienced multiple failures before ultimately achieving their goals. Therefore, it’s important to not view failure as a defining characteristic of a person, but rather as a temporary setback that can be overcome.

The way that failed people are treated by society can vary depending on the culture and context. In some cases, they may be looked down upon or criticized, while in other cases, they may be supported and encouraged to try again. It’s important to create a culture that celebrates effort, growth, and resilience, rather than one that stigmatizes failure. This can create a more supportive and inclusive environment where individuals feel safe to take risks and learn from their mistakes.