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The Perception of Help: How Status Shapes the Narrative of Assistance


The relationship between a helper and a receiver of help can be complex and nuanced. One interesting aspect to consider is the impact of their respective positions in society. Specifically, if the helper is in a higher position than the receiver of help, the latter may view the assistance they received as an achievement.

“If the helper is in a higher position, only then the person who received the help will speak of it as an achievement.”

Why might this be the case? It could be due to a number of reasons. For one, receiving help from someone in a higher position can be seen as a validation of one’s own worth and capabilities. If a successful and respected individual deigns to offer assistance, it can be interpreted as a sign that the receiver has potential and is deserving of attention.

Furthermore, receiving help from someone in a higher position can provide a boost to one’s own social status. If others know that a respected individual has offered assistance, it can increase the receiver’s reputation and standing within their community. This can lead to greater opportunities and a sense of accomplishment.

Overall, the impact of position and status on the helper-receiver relationship is a fascinating area of study. By examining the ways in which individuals interpret and respond to assistance, we can gain a deeper understanding of human social dynamics and the ways in which we interact with one another

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Yesterday I had a discussion with Sangeetha where she was telling that she was taken for granted for all the voluntary initiative she does… Then I gave her the reason why I stopped helping people because;

I’ve been a victim of helping people voluntarily… That means I volunteer to help people when they are in a situation / need / struggle without even they requesting me for help… But once they come our of the situation they never realize about the help… The problem arise when I get into a situation and expect the same reciprocations from them… These are some situations of my voluntary help;

  • Helped a lot of friends when they were in need of money… But when I was in need they washed their hands telling I gave them without they asking for help…
  • I volunteered to help a family whose car got punctured by offering my car kits to fix it… After every their job got over they left my kits on the road and they drove without any courtesy…
  • I co-founded a group during my college days where we use to run tech meetings every week… I volunteered to offer snacks & did all menial things… Over time people started treating me like a admin… Problem arose when other organizers were treated with respect…

There are a lot more situations where in I was a victim and from they I made it a point not to help people unless it is asked for…