How to align with Mother’s & Wife’s priorities with my priority??


This is one topic which I was feeling hesitant to write it out!!! Finally decided to go ahead with an assumption that some experienced hand can guide me!!!

It was planned a month back that my wife and I would be in Chennai during Pongal and complete all our bank related work… As always there was some change in plan and her visit to Chennai has been pushed to second week of February!!

So, I’ve filled forms and collected all necessary documents, got it signed by my wife and came to Chennai to complete the banking work!!! 

Upon submission of all the forms and documents to the bank there were request for some additional documents which has to be signed by my wife!!

Then I had to get this completed by having to & fro movement of documents to get the task completed!! For a task which could have been completed easily if my wife had been in person, took me 3-4 addition days with physical and mental stress added to it!!

Then I’ve planned of taking my mother to Madurai & Bangalore coming week to complete our obligation out there!!!

She agreed to make it up this week!! Now she wants to work on her pension and she has asked me to plan some other day to work Madurai & Bangalore priorities!!!

Unfortunately they fail to understand that I had to balance my professional & personal time!! I’ve planned to work from home for last week and coming week to concentrate on my personal work!!! 

Now lack of understanding and support has collapsed my plans!!! They get angry on me when I push them to align with my plans!!!

Finally I could complete last weeks work with unnecessary difficulty and cancelled the plans with I had with mother!!!

Really struggling to align the two important women of mine to travel along with me!!!

Feeling Guilty & Confused….


Every human has a lot of dreams when it comes to their professional & personal life. Always we there is a problem in balancing between personal & professional life balance. As a big dreamer I’ve strongly decided to run behind my dream. Last 10 years I’ve not spent much time with my parents & sister. Though I feel guilty at times I’ve not felt that bad as I’ve spent almost 2 decades with them.

But new entering a new phase in my life where I’ve to share my life with a better half. It has been 2 weeks since I’ve attended calls or called back the special person. Also not sure if I can for next month or so.

For the first time I’m feeling guilty. When I shared this with my closed ones I was asked to balance my personal life. But people who are professionally connected to me know the responsibility I carry and the difficulty I’ve in balancing time.

I’m trying to meet very successful people who have made it big from Rags and want to know if they are really successful in balancing personal & professional life. How did they balance in their early stage when they were in their pursuit of becoming successful.