The Cockroach Theory for Self-development


At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on a lady.She started screaming out of fear. With a panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach.Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group also got panicky. The lady finally managed to push the cockroach away…

But it landed on another lady in the group.Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama.The waiter rushed forward to their rescue.

In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter.The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt. When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant.

Was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behavior?
If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed?

He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.It is not the cockroach, but the inability of the ladies to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach that disturbed the ladies.

We have to realize that it is not the shouting of your father or your boss or your wife that disturbs you, but it’s your inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs you.

It’s not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs you, but your inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs you.

More than the problem, it’s your reaction to the problem that creates chaos in your life.

Lessons learnt from the story:

  • I understood, I should not react in life.
  • I should always respond.
  • The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.

Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always well thought of, just and right to save a situation from going out of hand, to avoid cracks in relationship, to avoid taking decisions in anger, anxiety, stress or hurry.

Let’s all Practice this – Let’s RESPOND, NOT REACT !!!

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