How to align with Mother’s & Wife’s priorities with my priority??

This is one topic which I was feeling hesitant to write it out!!! Finally decided to go ahead with an assumption that some experienced hand can guide me!!!

It was planned a month back that my wife and I would be in Chennai during Pongal and complete all our bank related work… As always there was some change in plan and her visit to Chennai has been pushed to second week of February!!

So, I’ve filled forms and collected all necessary documents, got it signed by my wife and came to Chennai to complete the banking work!!! 

Upon submission of all the forms and documents to the bank there were request for some additional documents which has to be signed by my wife!!

Then I had to get this completed by having to & fro movement of documents to get the task completed!! For a task which could have been completed easily if my wife had been in person, took me 3-4 addition days with physical and mental stress added to it!!

Then I’ve planned of taking my mother to Madurai & Bangalore coming week to complete our obligation out there!!!

She agreed to make it up this week!! Now she wants to work on her pension and she has asked me to plan some other day to work Madurai & Bangalore priorities!!!

Unfortunately they fail to understand that I had to balance my professional & personal time!! I’ve planned to work from home for last week and coming week to concentrate on my personal work!!! 

Now lack of understanding and support has collapsed my plans!!! They get angry on me when I push them to align with my plans!!!

Finally I could complete last weeks work with unnecessary difficulty and cancelled the plans with I had with mother!!!

Really struggling to align the two important women of mine to travel along with me!!!


Much needed on at the moment


6 years ago when his sister suddenly passed away – he quit on life. Stop working completely, cut off relationships and shut himself out from the world. Literally has done nothing for 6 years and not knowing how to get out of his despair.

He asked me for help and I said, ‘meet me half way and put in the work’…

I’m committed to this man to show him there’s a great life out there worth living and will help create an opportunity for him to get ahead.

Running thru the same despair for my ailing dad. Time to carry myself, my mother & sister out of this.

Why mothers are special

Got a call from my friend in Madurai to inform me about the accident of a common friend… Accident happened when my friend was returning from Trichy along with his wife, 2 kids & sister after attending a marriage… I was told my friend slept while driving and that to driving at a speed of 120 KM / HR…

My friend suffered injuries on his chest & leg… His sister was the worst hurt as her spinal chord was badly damaged and heard her condition was pretty serious… Then his wife had serious head injuries…

But what startled me was his 2 kids escaped without a single scratch… My friends wife hugged & covered the kids which saved them unhurt… On hearing this I was speechless… I saw how a mother instantly thought of saving her kids putting her life in the back-foot… I cannot imagine a relationship which is far more than a mother… I salute this mother & wish her a speedy recovery…

Also please pray for the recovery of my friends family & his sister a speedy recovery… Wish they quickly overcome the trauma physically & mentally…

Wish you Many More happy returns of the day Mom

Today is my mother’s birthday and it is so special day in my life. So, how did we celebrate the day. I, my sister & father were awake till 12 o clock to wish her. 

We woke my mother who was sleeping and wished her on the special day. Also we didn’t cut cake as my mom is a Veggie & we didn’t want to make the occasion western. 

So we decided to go for a family lunch / dinner. Unfortunately that didn’t happen because my father & sister were help with work. 

Since I don’t want to disclose the gift we got to my mother. I’ll keep that part private. Over all it was a small 15 min occasion. 

But it was most cherishing moment to celebrate the day of someone who gave me the entry to this loveable world and been a part of my success and a supporting hand during my tough times.

I wish my loveable mother a Happy Birthday once again…

Never wait to express your LOVE – It might become too late

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said I love you but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you.

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.

‘What’s wrong, are you well,’ she asked? My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news.

‘I thought that it would be pleasant to be with you,’ I responded. ‘Just two of us.’

She thought about it for a moment, and then said, ‘I would like that very much.’

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous.

When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary.

She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel’s.

‘I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed, ‘she said, as she got into the car. ‘They can’t wait to hear about our meeting’. We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady.

After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there star ing at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips.

‘It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,’ she said. ‘Then it’s time that you relax and let me return the favor,’ I responded.

During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation – nothing extraordinary, but catching up on recent events of each other’s life.

We talked so much that we missed the movie.

As we arrived at her house later, she said, ‘I’ll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.’ I agreed.

‘How was your dinner date?’ asked my wife when I got home. ‘Very nice.

Much more so than I could have imagined,’ I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn’t have time to do anything for h er.

Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined.

An attached note said: ‘I paid this bill in advance. I wasn’t sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates – one for you & the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me.

I love you, son.

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: ‘I LOVE YOU!’ and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than God and your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till ‘some other time.’

Pass this along to everyone with an aging parent, to a friend, to an adult.

My MOM the greatest!!!

120x240This is the first blog I’m dedicating to my mother, in fact this is the first time I’m dedicating something to my most beloved person in this earth… I feel ashamed of myself for getting inspiration from; without them announcing the Mothers Day contest it didn’t even strike to do something like this… Many a times I was thinking hard for a blog topic for a blog post and I don’t know why this didn’t strike me… Anyways thank you for striking a nail in my head…


I personally owe a lot to my mother for without her I’m not in this world… I don’t know how many times I’d have provoked her but ever time what she gave in return was her kindness… Further more she is one of the smartest person in the world ever I’ve seen… Let me share this experience;


I bunked my classes for the first time when I was in my grade 10 and got caught!! Can you all guess how?? While washing my uniform there was no dirt in the collar and she caught me…


She always taught me the value for money and how to lead a life within our means… Though I differ with his point what I admire from her is the way she managed things when my father was the single earning member and the no. of people who are dependent on his income were more (myself, mom, sister, fathers mom, fathers elder sister)…


Mom was always good when it comes to money and she saved a part of my father’s salary without his knowledge and she was able to buy a ground / plot of land and she was able to use some money for constructing our house… I’m sure my father would have built a house for himself (he would have spent more for me, my sister and his siblings instead of saving)…


I’ve always been very poor in my academics and I was the biggest head ace for my mother and after my graduation I ventured into entrepreneurship and was fairly successful and I’ve not done anything to my mother…


What my mom expects from me is simple things like having breakfast/dinner together and taking her to temple… But I’m unable to fulfill her small wishes like this… I’m planning to take oath for this mother’s day to make my mother happy by fulfilling her wish at least one day in a month…


Also I’m wondering what gift I can get for my mother for this mothers day… Please help me by giving some suggestion…


I take this opportunity to wish my mom and all beautiful mothers a Happy Mothers Day…


For sure I’ll make a blog post on 10th May 2009 on what gift I’ll be getting to my mother…