Who is really SETTLED???


I got a call from my class mate and a good buddy… But we couldn’t interact frequently owing to career path… What started to be like a courtesy call ended up as an argument as who is settled in our own terms…

At some point in our conversation my friend stated that he is not frequenting me and for school get togehters because he is no settled in life unlike me… I got startled when I heard that from him as my MOM use to compare me with him claiming my friend is settled unlike me…

According to my mom my friend is having a decent job, a decent pay, got married & has got a kid… My mom always screams that I’m not settled like my school buddy…

But when my friend claimed he is not settled like me… I get really shocked… I for sure understood he means monetary status as settled… He feels a person should get married until he is financially independent… He said I’m right in delaying my marriage to get financially independent… My friend strongly feels attaining financial independence is real SETTLED…

Many times my mom use to ask me what am I going to do with all these money without a family… Number of times she advised me to wind my business and take up a job… My parents use to say they were not rich or financially stable when my and my sister was born… For them a person with a family even if he is not financially stable is real SETTLED…

This is a story of true perceptions… I’m seeing a person who is not happy because he is not financially independent thought he has a good family… I’ve seen the experience of another who experienced happiness in family than their financial independence…

Now I’ve to choose or find which perception is suited for me??? Am I SETTLED or not???

Seasons


There was once a man who had four sons. He wanted his sons to learn not to judge things too quickly. So he sent them each on a quest, in turn, to go and look at a pear tree that was a great distance away.

The first son went in the winter, the second in the spring, the third in summer, and the youngest son in the fall. When they had all gone and come back, he called them together to describe what they had seen.

The first son said “the tree was ugly, bent, and twisted.” The second son said “no, it was covered with green buds and full of promise.” The third son disagreed; he said “it was laden with blossoms that smelled so sweet and looked so beautiful, it was the most graceful thing I have ever seen.” The last son disagreed with all of them; he said “it was ripe and drooping with fruit, full of life and fulfillment.”

The man then explained to his sons that they were all right, because they had each seen but only one season in the tree’s life. He told them that you cannot judge a tree, or a person, by only one season, and that the essence of who they are and the pleasure, joy, and love that come from that life can only be measured at the end, when all the seasons are up. “If you give up when it’s winter, you will miss the promise of your spring, the beauty of your summer, the fulfillment of your fall.”