How to align with Mother’s & Wife’s priorities with my priority??


This is one topic which I was feeling hesitant to write it out!!! Finally decided to go ahead with an assumption that some experienced hand can guide me!!!

It was planned a month back that my wife and I would be in Chennai during Pongal and complete all our bank related work… As always there was some change in plan and her visit to Chennai has been pushed to second week of February!!

So, I’ve filled forms and collected all necessary documents, got it signed by my wife and came to Chennai to complete the banking work!!! 

Upon submission of all the forms and documents to the bank there were request for some additional documents which has to be signed by my wife!!

Then I had to get this completed by having to & fro movement of documents to get the task completed!! For a task which could have been completed easily if my wife had been in person, took me 3-4 addition days with physical and mental stress added to it!!

Then I’ve planned of taking my mother to Madurai & Bangalore coming week to complete our obligation out there!!!

She agreed to make it up this week!! Now she wants to work on her pension and she has asked me to plan some other day to work Madurai & Bangalore priorities!!!

Unfortunately they fail to understand that I had to balance my professional & personal time!! I’ve planned to work from home for last week and coming week to concentrate on my personal work!!! 

Now lack of understanding and support has collapsed my plans!!! They get angry on me when I push them to align with my plans!!!

Finally I could complete last weeks work with unnecessary difficulty and cancelled the plans with I had with mother!!!

Really struggling to align the two important women of mine to travel along with me!!!

What happened to my BLOGGING??


Once blogging use to be a habit without which I couldn’t close my day!! It was real hard practice, perceivarance and discipline which helped to make it a habit!!! Over all this habit helped me in;

  • Improving my communication skills!!
  • Improved my vocabulary!!!
  • Expressing my thoughts!!
  • Documenting my daily life!!
  • Experiencing Challenges!!
  • Getting New Friends!!
  • Becoming Open & Transparent!!
  • Venting out frustration!!

As days passed this habit slowly became an addiction!!! This addiction made;

  • Me stretch my day to finish my blog post!!
  • Me depressed if I fail to make a blog post!!
  • Me do unwanted things to make a blog post!!
  • Me too transparent and open person!!
  • Me loose my reputation sometimes!!

In spite of all those negatives it helped me feel free and expose my rightful image. I was able to move without carrying any burden on my shoulder!!! 

But I wanted to stop blogging for some time because I thought that I should not get addicted to anything or do anything because of addiction!! So, I voluntarily stopped blogging for some time!!

By the time I got convinced that I was de-addicted and ready to start my blogging I got married.. Then on I couldn’t be the same transparent and open person.. There were things which my wife couldn’t tolerate and accept.. I had to hide things to her in order to avoid hurting her.. I fell into the trap of mediocrity!! So, I couldn’t blog any longer 😦

Frankly I do not want to show prejudice between my wife and parents.. I want to be the same transparent person the way I did with my parents..

Today while I was driving back alone from my wife’s native to Madurai I was thinking;

  • Why I stopped blogging for marriage?? 
  • Was I right or wrong in doing so??

Then I realised that the relationship and bond we carry with our parents are naturally stiched and we dare to take it for granted.. But with marriage we are building a bond which has to carefully crafted and stiched!!

I feel it was better sacrifice to hold my blog and my natural trait for the sake of building a relationship!! 

Not sure how far we have crossed as a couple and the depth in our bond??

Should I start Blogging or Wait for some more time??

Just want to try it out with small doses 🙂

Hope Yamuna reads this blog sometime or some day and makes a comment 🙂

Wives must be dumb ;)


After a meeting I was coming out of a hotel and I was looking for my car keys. They were not in my pockets. A quick search in the meeting room… it wasn’t there.

Suddenly I realised I must have left them in the car. My husband has shouted many times for leaving the keys in the ignition. My theory is, the ignition is the best place not to lose them. His theory is that the car will be stolen. Immediately I rushed to the parking lot, I came to a terrifying conclusion. His theory was right. The parking lot was empty.

I immediately called the police. I gave them my location, car number and description of the place where I parked etc. I equally confessed that I had left my keys in the car, and that it had been stolen.

Then I made the most difficult call of all, to my husband!!!

“Honey,” I stammered; I always call him “honey” in times like these.

“I left my keys in the car, and it has been stolen.

” There was a period of silence. I thought the call had been dropped, but then I heard his voice.

“Idiot”, he shouted, “I dropped you at the hotel !”

Now it was my time to be silent. Embarrassed, I said, “Well, come and get me.”

He shouted again, “I will, as soon as I manage to convince this policeman that I have not stolen your car.”

How to live a happy married life


Marriage is the most needed thing of our social life and every person wants to live a successful married life so that he can live happily with peace. Chanakaya has given many secrets for a successful marriage in Chanakaya Niti.

While every man wants to marry a beautiful girl but Chanakya has told otherwise. He says that if a girl is beautiful but does not belong to a good family then do not marry with her. He said we should marry with a girl of a good family even if she is not beautiful. He said the marriage should done in a family which is equal to our family.

Chanakaya said the love between husband and wife is the most successful reason behind marriage.

He said the real happiness of a wife lies in the serving of her husband and it is the Swarag of the wife.

He said a successful wife is that who is honest and clever. A wife should love his husband and speak the truth. This kind of behavior of a wife brings happiness to the family.

He says that the wise people should not quarrel over the talks of women as it brings sorrows in the family.

A woman should understand any work done by her with the consent of her husband is beneficial to her and family.

A husband should always protect his wife with his money etc.

A daughter should be married in a good family.

A wife should not quarrel with her husband without any reason.

The couples can live happily by keeping in mind the secrets told by the Great Chanakaya.

A cute love story


A 9 year old boy got a 6 year beautiful girlz photo on the street side & he loved that girl so much but he was not able to meet that girl again!

Couple of years later his wife saw the photo & asked “Where did you get this photo”

He asked, “Why?” she said,”I Lost d Photo wen i was 6 years”

Moral: True Love never Fails…

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Husband V/S Wife


Husband: Do you know the meaning of W I F E?
It means, Without Information, Fighting Everytime!
Wife: No darling, it means, With Idiot For Ever. 

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Wife: I wish I was a newspaper,
So I’d be in your hands all day.
Husband: I too wish that you were a newspaper,
So I could have a new ONE everyday. 

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Doctor: Your husband needs rest and peace. Here are some sleeping pills.
Wife: When must I give them to him?
Doctor: They are for you. 

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Wife: I had to marry you to find out how stupid you are.
Husband: You should have known it the minute.
I asked you to marry me. 

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Husband: Today is Sunday & I have to enjoy it.
So I bought 3 movie tickets.
Wife: Why Three?
Husband: For you and your parents. 

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Wife: What will you give me if I climb the great Mount Everest?
Husband: A lovely Push…!!! 

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Q: What is the most effective way to remember your wife’s birthday?
A: Just forget it once and you will never forget it again. 

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After a quarrel, a wife said to her husband, 
You know, I was a fool when I married you. 
The husband replied, “Yes dear, but I was in love and didn’t noticed.

Never wait to express your LOVE – It might become too late


After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said I love you but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you.

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.

‘What’s wrong, are you well,’ she asked? My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news.

‘I thought that it would be pleasant to be with you,’ I responded. ‘Just two of us.’

She thought about it for a moment, and then said, ‘I would like that very much.’

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous.

When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary.

She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel’s.

‘I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed, ‘she said, as she got into the car. ‘They can’t wait to hear about our meeting’. We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady.

After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there star ing at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips.

‘It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,’ she said. ‘Then it’s time that you relax and let me return the favor,’ I responded.

During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation – nothing extraordinary, but catching up on recent events of each other’s life.

We talked so much that we missed the movie.

As we arrived at her house later, she said, ‘I’ll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.’ I agreed.

‘How was your dinner date?’ asked my wife when I got home. ‘Very nice.

Much more so than I could have imagined,’ I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn’t have time to do anything for h er.

Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined.

An attached note said: ‘I paid this bill in advance. I wasn’t sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates – one for you & the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me.

I love you, son.

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: ‘I LOVE YOU!’ and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than God and your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till ‘some other time.’

Pass this along to everyone with an aging parent, to a friend, to an adult.