Friends, Politics and Social Media: Can We Disagree and Still Coexist?


There was a time in India when people with completely different political opinions still remained close friends.

One person voted Congress.
Another supported BJP.
Someone else supported DMK.
One was deeply religious.
Another was secular.

Yet:

  • they attended weddings together,
  • worked together,
  • helped each other in business,
  • had tea shop debates,
  • argued loudly,
  • and still remained connected.

Politics was just one part of life, not the entire identity of a person.

But social media slowly changed this culture.

Today, a political opinion is no longer seen as “just an opinion.” It has become an emotional identity marker. The moment someone openly supports a political party or reacts to a religious issue, people start placing them into categories and labels.

This is where the real pain begins.

In my case, I have many close Muslim and Christian friends — friends from work, business, ex-employees and social circles. I never questioned their religious practices or political preferences. I never had a problem if they supported Congress or DMK.

But when I openly supported BJP or reacted when I felt Hindu beliefs were mocked or insulted, suddenly the reactions changed.

Some called me and expressed disappointment.
Some unfriended me silently.
Some stopped engaging completely.
Some branded me a “Sanghi.”

That word itself is often used today as if it is meant to socially isolate someone.

The irony is: supporting a political party in a democracy should be normal.

is not a banned organization or an underground movement. It is a democratically elected political party, just like or .

Then why has society become emotionally uncomfortable with political differences?

That is the bigger question.

I realized this issue is no longer just about BJP, Congress, religion or ideology. The deeper issue is that society is slowly losing the ability to coexist despite disagreement.

Earlier we had emotional maturity to separate:

  • friendship from politics,
  • people from opinions,
  • relationships from ideology.

Today social media mixes everything together.

Algorithms reward outrage.
Politics becomes identity.
Identity becomes emotion.
Emotion becomes division.

Even normal people slowly become emotionally reactive online.

A person who would happily sit and have coffee with you in real life may still get disturbed by your political post online.

That is the strange contradiction of the social media era.

The dangerous part is not disagreement. Disagreement is healthy in a democracy.

The dangerous part is emotional isolation.

When people stop expressing openly:

  • resentment builds silently,
  • echo chambers grow,
  • society becomes polarized,
  • and friendships become conditional.

Maybe a healthier society is not one where everyone agrees.

Maybe a healthier society is one where:

  • people openly express opinions,
  • disagree strongly,
  • debate emotionally,
  • cool down,
  • and still remain human with one another afterward.

India survived for centuries because of coexistence despite differences in:

  • religion,
  • language,
  • caste,
  • food,
  • region,
  • and politics.

“Unity in diversity” is not about similarity.
It is about emotional maturity despite differences.

Social media has tested that maturity.

Now society must evolve again.

Because if friendships cannot survive political disagreement, then politics has become bigger than humanity itself.

The Stat Connection


Today’s WordPress The Daily Post topic is: The Stat Connection, where I’ve to pick my top 5 blog post and explain why they have been successful!!

QUALITIES OF PEOPLE BORN DURING FEBRUARY: This is my top performing blog.. Being born during the month of February, thought of posting some of my traits.. Never expected this four year old blog could strike chord with everyone born during February…

Also it is a surprise to see a lot of Feb born people commenting their acceptance of the trait :)… Another reason for the success of the post is the Keyword of the title which is a common search term… Getting around 30+ Google clicks for the post everyday…

IS DEMOCRACY GOOD FOR INDIA?: This blog was written out of frustration after 26/11 Mumbai attacks… I was wondering how a city-country like Singapore which is ruled by a single person can be soo safe..

The blog is seven years old and again the title is a common search term and all the click comes from Google…

M.KARUNANIDHI FAMILY TREE: Six years back uploaded a picture of Karunanidhi’s family tree. For those who are not familiar with Karunanidhi. He is ex-chief minister of the state of Tamil Nadu in India. He has officially 3 wife’s, half a dozen children and a dozen grandchildren..

He is mostly ridiculed because, have more than 3 wife is not a common practice in our times in our society. Also most of his family members dominate the state in politics, movies and business. This is the most admired and hated family in the state…

So, there is no doubt why people search for his famil tree and again Google gives all the clicks…

WHICH IS A BETTER CAREER CHOICE? COW FARM OR PROGRAMMER: This blog was recently posted and it is the mostly shared feed in my FaceBook… I see most of the people could make immediate connect with this reality 🙂

IRIDIAM MOVIE EXPERIENCE – RETROSPECTION: This is all a new blog post where I shared my experience of co-producing a tamil feature film. I’ve shared both the good and bad experience along with the reasons for movie’s failure!! Anything related to movie gives good strike rate because we are a movie crazy society!!

After Casting my Vote!!!


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Participated in one of the greatest & breath taking show on the earth… This is a place where the mighty bows down to the downtrodden… Where an individual or a small group or a small community can make their presence felt…

Feeling proud to be an INDIAN!!!

Jai HIND!!!