Tag: marriage

What happened to my BLOGGING??

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Once blogging use to be a habit without which I couldn’t close my day!! It was real hard practice, perceivarance and discipline which helped to make it a habit!!! Over all this habit helped me in;

  • Improving my communication skills!!
  • Improved my vocabulary!!!
  • Expressing my thoughts!!
  • Documenting my daily life!!
  • Experiencing Challenges!!
  • Getting New Friends!!
  • Becoming Open & Transparent!!
  • Venting out frustration!!

As days passed this habit slowly became an addiction!!! This addiction made;

  • Me stretch my day to finish my blog post!!
  • Me depressed if I fail to make a blog post!!
  • Me do unwanted things to make a blog post!!
  • Me too transparent and open person!!
  • Me loose my reputation sometimes!!

In spite of all those negatives it helped me feel free and expose my rightful image. I was able to move without carrying any burden on my shoulder!!! 

But I wanted to stop blogging for some time because I thought that I should not get addicted to anything or do anything because of addiction!! So, I voluntarily stopped blogging for some time!!

By the time I got convinced that I was de-addicted and ready to start my blogging I got married.. Then on I couldn’t be the same transparent and open person.. There were things which my wife couldn’t tolerate and accept.. I had to hide things to her in order to avoid hurting her.. I fell into the trap of mediocrity!! So, I couldn’t blog any longer 😦

Frankly I do not want to show prejudice between my wife and parents.. I want to be the same transparent person the way I did with my parents..

Today while I was driving back alone from my wife’s native to Madurai I was thinking;

  • Why I stopped blogging for marriage?? 
  • Was I right or wrong in doing so??

Then I realised that the relationship and bond we carry with our parents are naturally stiched and we dare to take it for granted.. But with marriage we are building a bond which has to carefully crafted and stiched!!

I feel it was better sacrifice to hold my blog and my natural trait for the sake of building a relationship!! 

Not sure how far we have crossed as a couple and the depth in our bond??

Should I start Blogging or Wait for some more time??

Just want to try it out with small doses 🙂

Hope Yamuna reads this blog sometime or some day and makes a comment 🙂

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How to live a happy married life

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Marriage is the most needed thing of our social life and every person wants to live a successful married life so that he can live happily with peace. Chanakaya has given many secrets for a successful marriage in Chanakaya Niti.

While every man wants to marry a beautiful girl but Chanakya has told otherwise. He says that if a girl is beautiful but does not belong to a good family then do not marry with her. He said we should marry with a girl of a good family even if she is not beautiful. He said the marriage should done in a family which is equal to our family.

Chanakaya said the love between husband and wife is the most successful reason behind marriage.

He said the real happiness of a wife lies in the serving of her husband and it is the Swarag of the wife.

He said a successful wife is that who is honest and clever. A wife should love his husband and speak the truth. This kind of behavior of a wife brings happiness to the family.

He says that the wise people should not quarrel over the talks of women as it brings sorrows in the family.

A woman should understand any work done by her with the consent of her husband is beneficial to her and family.

A husband should always protect his wife with his money etc.

A daughter should be married in a good family.

A wife should not quarrel with her husband without any reason.

The couples can live happily by keeping in mind the secrets told by the Great Chanakaya.

Who is really SETTLED???

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I got a call from my class mate and a good buddy… But we couldn’t interact frequently owing to career path… What started to be like a courtesy call ended up as an argument as who is settled in our own terms…

At some point in our conversation my friend stated that he is not frequenting me and for school get togehters because he is no settled in life unlike me… I got startled when I heard that from him as my MOM use to compare me with him claiming my friend is settled unlike me…

According to my mom my friend is having a decent job, a decent pay, got married & has got a kid… My mom always screams that I’m not settled like my school buddy…

But when my friend claimed he is not settled like me… I get really shocked… I for sure understood he means monetary status as settled… He feels a person should get married until he is financially independent… He said I’m right in delaying my marriage to get financially independent… My friend strongly feels attaining financial independence is real SETTLED…

Many times my mom use to ask me what am I going to do with all these money without a family… Number of times she advised me to wind my business and take up a job… My parents use to say they were not rich or financially stable when my and my sister was born… For them a person with a family even if he is not financially stable is real SETTLED…

This is a story of true perceptions… I’m seeing a person who is not happy because he is not financially independent thought he has a good family… I’ve seen the experience of another who experienced happiness in family than their financial independence…

Now I’ve to choose or find which perception is suited for me??? Am I SETTLED or not???

Why wedding ring is worn on the fourth finger…its very interesting!!!

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This is interesting Try it out !

Why should the wedding ring be worn on the fourth finger?
There is a beautiful and convincing explanation given by the Chinese…..

  • Thumb represents your Parents…
  • Second (Index) finger represents your Siblings…
  • Middle finger represents your-Self…
  • Fourth (Ring) finger represents your Life Partner & the Last (Little) finger represents your children…
  • Firstly, open your palms (face to face), bend the middle fingers and hold them together – back to back…
  • Secondly, open and hold the remaining three fingers and the thumb – tip to tip…

(As shown in the figure below):

Now, try to separate your thumbs (representing the parents)…, they will open, because your parents are not destined to live with you lifelong, and have to leave you sooner or later.

Please join your thumbs as before and separate your Index fingers (representing siblings)…., they will also open, because your brothers and sisters will have their own families and will have to lead their own separate lives.

Now join the Index fingers and separate your Little fingers (representing your children)…., they will open too, because the children also will get married and settle down on their own some day.

Finally, join your Little fingers, and try to separate your Ring fingers (representing your spouse).
You will be surprised to see that you just CANNOT….., because Husband & Wife have to remain together all their lives – through thick and thin!!

Please try this out………….
ISN’T THIS A LOVELY THEORY?

Vibes or Co-incedence

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Yesterday I was talking about my perception about marriage & why I’m delaying my marriage… For long there has never been any pressure from my parents… But today when I got up it was my father who came to me asking if I could spend some time with him… Immediately I thought it was going to be about my marriage… I’ve never seen him so dull in my life & his points were;

  • I’m getting aged and choices were getting dim…
  • They have a responsibility to full-fill…
  • He believes that a women is needed in a man’s life to be disciplined…

This was one emotional issues I’ve to handle… I know my parents have their own point of view and they want to full-fill their responsibility… But I’ve my point of view which I know they are not going to buy it…

Still I don’t know if i’m prepared for a marriage… I’m not sure if I can full-fill the responsibility as a husband or a father as I’m so irresponsible… Also I enjoy being irresponsible and still not having the feel of getting married…

Now it is time to make a call if I must fall for my parents emotions or live the life I like…

Mens perspective

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  • When a man steals your wife, there is no better revenge than to let him keep her.
    David Bissonette
  • After marriage, husband and wife become two sides of a coin; they just can’t face each other, but still they stay together.
    Sacha Guitry
  • By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you’ll be happy. If you get a bad one, you’ll become a philosopher.
    Socrates
  • Woman inspires us to great things, and prevents us from achieving them.
    Anonymous
  • The great question… which I have not been able to answer… is, “What does a woman want?
    Dumas
  • I had some words with my wife, and she had some paragraphs with me.
    Sigmund Freud
  • I’ve had bad luck with both my wives. The first one left me, and the second one didn’t.”
    James Holt McGavra
  • Two secrets to keep your marriage brimming
    1. Whenever you’re wrong, admit it,
    2. Whenever you’re right, shut up.
    Patrick Murra
  • The most effective way to remember your wife’s birthday is to forget it once…
    Nash
  • You know what I did before I married? Anything I wanted to.
    Anonymous
  • My wife and I were happy for twenty years. Then we met.
    Henny Youngman
  • A man inserted an ‘ad’ in the classifieds: “Wife wanted”. Next day he received a hundred letters. They all said the same thing: “You can have mine.”
    Anonymous
  • First Guy (proudly): “My wife’s an angel!”Second Guy: “You’re lucky, mine’s still alive.”
    Anonymous

Mr & Miss.Anonymous

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Caution

Both the characters in this post are fictional. It doesn’t describe any individual nor it is real. Written purely on the imagination of the  BLLOGGER.

This is reply to Miss.Anonymous on what made him like her??

First Mr.Anonymous went to meet her to tell he was not interested to get married now because;

  • His Bachelor life was still going very strong and he was not feeling a need for a companion.
  • He felt still he was not mentally mature to get married.
  • He wanted to take a break for 6 months form mainstream life and stay in a Buddhist Monastery & lead a life of a monk just like his icon Steve Jobs before marriage.
  • He wanted to get married at the age of 36 because that is when Sergey Brim got married.

But the moment when he met her in person there was something that flashed on the mind of Mr.Anonymous which said “if he had to me successful in pursuing his dreams then he had to go for her”. It was a intuition based decision which got flashed for a second.

He went ahead and accepted for a proposal which he has not planned for the moment.

There must also be some magic with Miss. Anonymous who made the unexpected.

What if Columbus had been Married?

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He might never have discovered America, because he would have had to answer all the following questions:

  • Where are you going?
  • With whom?
  • Why?
  • How are you going?
  • To discover what?
  • Why only you?
  • What do I do when you are not here?
  • Can I come with you?
  • When will you be back?
  • Would you have dinner at home?
  • What would you bring for me?
  • You deliberately made this plan without me, didn’t you?
  • You seem to be making a lot of these programs lately…
  • Answer me why?
  • I want to go to my mothers house.
  • I want you to drop me there.
  • I don’t want to come back ever!
  • What do you mean, OK?
  • Why aren’t you stopping me?
  • I don’t understand what this whole discovery thing is about.
  • You always do things like this.
  • Last time you also did the same thing!
  • Nowadays you always seem to do this kind of stuff.
  • I still don’t understand what else is left to be discovered!

Challenging visit to Mayiladuthurai

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Had to drive to Mayiladuthurai to attend a friends wedding. I had to drive my parents & aunt for the marriage. Though i love to go for such drives i had hard time as i had to drive during a hot day on 1st June. On reaching the town by noon we reached my aunt’s home to take a short nap. Agony started again & there was no power and we had to sleep under a Fan which ran on a inverter. After waking up we all took bath and reached the Marriage Hall.

It was time to meet all the cousins and pull down each other. Other side elders were introducing us to other distant relatives. WE were there in the hall for 4 hours and time went in a jiffy.

Then we came back to aunt’s house only to find that the power hasn’t come back. I went to a nearby Hotel named PAMS which had only one AC room and i blocked the room immediately. When i picked my sister, mom & granny power came back. Sadly hotel denied a refund and we all stayed in the hotel.

Next day we all got up by 5 AM and reached the hall by 6 AM for marriage. Again 5 hours went like a giffy. But the hall was too hot for us to stay till noon. After the dinner we immediately started to drive back to Chennai.

Since i drove the previous day & because of poor sleep i was very tired & with great difficulty i drove back home. After that i had a slept immediately by 6 PM and got up only at 10 AM the next day.

A Jam Packed Day

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Yesterday has been a fulfilling day as it kept me fully engaged which is what a person like me expects. The day started drowsy as usual like every day. I got up by 11 AM and it was normal routine. By 11.45 AM i drove to my office and reached office by 12.15 noon.

Then I started the day with couple of tweets and posted a Blog. Then came my cousin who wants to be a part of my marketing initiative and I took him as a Business Development intern.

I did some mentoring which started with some enlightenment of his current small business and then I took him through his role as an intern. Hope he enjoys working under me.

Got a call from my friend who came to give his marriage invitation. Then spent an hour with him and took him to the house of another friend.

Then retuned to office to pickup another cousin who started an aquarium business and he visited my office to give his consultation on setting up an aquarium in my office.

Then by the end of the day me and Bala thought of going for a movie and we went to Satyam Cinemas and booked a ticket for Kurbaan. As it was only 8 o clock and the show was by 10.30 we thought we could spend the remaining time at Amethyst as Bala has never been there before.

At Amethyst it was as usual a nice atmosphere but the food was really bad. Then this time I was more irated by their behavior. in their menu they has specified their timings as 10 AM – 10 PM.

But instead they started closing the shop by 9.15 and the guy came near us and he switched off the fan without having the courtesy to ask for an excuse. They did all things to drive us out even before 9.30 PM and we came out with frustration.

But we were talking business, cracking jokes and I didn’t want to spoil my mood and I drove till island ground and returned and parked the car at Satyam Annex and we took a walk to theatre.

My expectations we set high on movie as Shiv Sena has said that they are going to send saris to Kareena Kapoor & while getting the tickets we were told it was an adults only movie and we cant take minors.

I thought there would be some adult scenes in the movie and nothing of that sort was shown. All hype created by promos, media and the person issuing tickets ended in disappointing me after the movie got over.

Over all it was a day where I was engaged every minute and I’m happy to close the day.

Good Night!!!