Death of GrandUncle


Went to attend the funeral of my Grand Uncle who expired last Saturday. For me it is an experience which was new because I’m attending my first funeral in a Village & see the emotions of people.

My Grand Mother’s is a big family with 8 sisters and 2 brothers. My Grand Uncle was the last one Kid and he is 66 Years and all other siblings were elder to him. It was really heart breaking to see how all sisters cried and that showed what emotion is, what love is.

All arrangements for funeral were shared by all Village folks and everyone contributed their part. I’ve never seen such kind of participation in Cities.

Then it was normal routine done by my uncles to their father. The had to take a Dip at Kaveri River which is just 50 meters from their house. Though I’ve visited the village a zillion times I’ve never taken a dip in the river and it was my first opportunity to take it. Also we are lucky to see the river full because of the rains.

For me looking at the emotions, participation of people were all new and a new experience.

Lives were at Stake!!!


Yesterday one of my GrandUncle (Grandma’s Brother) died and we had to visit his funeral at Trichy. Since ours is a large family we had a around 10 folks who had to make it. Since it was heavily raining and everyone was not prepared for a drive we decided to hire a TempoTraveller. We all boarded the Van by 9 PM and it was all misery from then on.

  • Because of unavailability of driver the Cab owner has sent another driver who has just completed his 13 hour shift.
  • Immediately we found this guy sleeping while driving.
  • Myself & 2 of my uncle had to engage in a conversation with the Driver to see to it that he is not sleeping.
  • We took 5+ Tea breaks to refresh him.
  • He feel sleep and applied breaks on the middle of the road & we have to thank almighty that there were no heavy vehicles behind us.
  • He slept and he didn’t notice a lorry in the front and I had to alert him.
  • Then twice he would have collided with a lorry.
  • Then he took a nap for 30 min since he couldn’t resist his sleep.
  • In spite of all this agony we were friendly with him. But the gesture was not reciprocated. When ladies wanted to find a good place to get refreshed. We missed a right turn to get to the Petrol Bunk. This guy refused to take a reverse or a U-turn. Instead we had to goto another Petrol Bunk which had nasty toilets.

Then we reached the place by 5.30 in the morning. What would take 3 – 4 hours to travel a distance of 300 KM took us double the time, with lot of stress… The price paid was myself & 2 of my uncles spent the whole night without any sleep… Also the condition of the vehicle deserver another blog…

What worries me is people are getting ruthless and there is not moral values, business ethics. The owner of the Cab has played with the lives of 10 people. He could have told that he is falling short of Driver. But the greed of making money has made him push a person who has already worked for 13 hours and had to drive another long distance and that too in the night.

Human lives have become too cheap these days…

Back after a GAP


For the first time in history I was deprived of Blogging since I religiously started it. Credits must goto Gaza Hackers who kept bringing our servers down and later our own efforts to fix the loopholes and get things back on track.

In the mean time a lot has happened and there are lots to write. I must thank all my readers who have been enquiring about the status of my Blog through emails, facebook, linkedin, SMS etc.

All those message are a great dose of inspiration for me to write. I’d like to thank Mr.Bala Krishnan for following up with the hosts and fixing things at the earliest. Without him it would have taken more time for me to get on track.

Thank you everyone for all your support.

Seasons


There was once a man who had four sons. He wanted his sons to learn not to judge things too quickly. So he sent them each on a quest, in turn, to go and look at a pear tree that was a great distance away.

The first son went in the winter, the second in the spring, the third in summer, and the youngest son in the fall. When they had all gone and come back, he called them together to describe what they had seen.

The first son said “the tree was ugly, bent, and twisted.” The second son said “no, it was covered with green buds and full of promise.” The third son disagreed; he said “it was laden with blossoms that smelled so sweet and looked so beautiful, it was the most graceful thing I have ever seen.” The last son disagreed with all of them; he said “it was ripe and drooping with fruit, full of life and fulfillment.”

The man then explained to his sons that they were all right, because they had each seen but only one season in the tree’s life. He told them that you cannot judge a tree, or a person, by only one season, and that the essence of who they are and the pleasure, joy, and love that come from that life can only be measured at the end, when all the seasons are up. “If you give up when it’s winter, you will miss the promise of your spring, the beauty of your summer, the fulfillment of your fall.”

Am Bored & Reasons


Am feeling Bored more often these days because;

– Of shrinking friend base…
– Lack of mental sink with loved ones…
– Doing same task at work for almost a decade…
– Retiring from Sportsmanship…
– Staying away from problems for a long time…
– Transformation from dis-obedient to Obedient son…

Considering all the listed points. I think change in my behaviour & character makes me feel bored.

It is strange because people hated me when I was myself but I enjoyed. Today they like me but am not enjoying it.

Should I be myself ignoring others? Or make others happy & keep feeling bored?

Devil is out & Guild it In


Was upset with a lot of things for a long time and was not venting it out. Once I reached home late in the night my mom opened the gates and I immediately raided at my mom. I flushed out all the devil in my brain and I was feeling a lot light.

But after sometime the guilt of hurting my mother has taken over. Now I’m Happy & Worried for my deeds. No idea on how to go convince my mother and make up for my act.

The point is there were lots of things which I want my mother to change from overdoing on her Spirituality, her horoscope addiction, her lack of taking control on things and taking accountability & ownership.

For a long time all the above things were interfering with my day to day life and I was not able to take them any longer. Yesterday I took her for a Toss. Was feeling comfortable that I conveyed what is there in my mind. But seeing her worried and her sad face made me worried.

What every it is she he my mother & I love her a lot. Now I’m feeling bad that i’ve hurt her for all the non-deliberate things of her which Hurt me.

It was a very tough situation I’ve ever come across and not sure if my dealing was correct or wrong. Again I wanted to vent out my guilt of hurting my mom.

A different experience


It was a satisfying day at work and I was relieved to close a long pending requirement. Though this is just a drop in the ocean and the journey starts from here. I feel a sense of relief as this requirement was running for months and we are getting exhausted. By the time I was wrapping my day at office I got a friend which had really strong words and that made me feel hard. It carried for sometime until I was carried away by exciting conversation which I love MBA, Case Studies & Entrepreneurship.

Then I returned home early today and I had no plans to work for the night & I was not feeling sleepy either. Had no idea how to spend time. I’m sitting with my Laptop open and watching TV & I didn’t feel bored. Also I didn’t do anything useful too.

Came across Sun Music after a long time. I can say almost after a decade and they are playing songs of 80’s. I grew up listening to those songs. Each song made me nostalgic & I went back thinking the experience of watching those movies.

As a kid I was taken to those movies by my parents and watching movies were not like these days because they were totally different experience. I was taken to a selected movies, tickets were booked well in advance, mostly they were done during week ends. I use to count every day for the D-Day. I was always asked to study on Friday and Saturday if I had to be taken to that movie. Though I use to have the books on hand my mind will be full of expectation of watching that movie. For that 3 hour of joy I had to slog for a week. Anyways those were days of Bliss.

By the time I listen to the song I use to look for details in WikiPedia to read about my favorite stars of those days. These are some of the Actors, Actress & Movies I visited back.

Actors Actress Movies
Nagarjuna Girija Idayathai Thirudathey
Mohan Revathi Mouna Ragam
Karthik BhanuPriya Anveshana
Kamal Sri Devi Moondram Pirai
Rajini Ambika Ambulla Rajinikanth
Ramarajan Kanaka Karakatakaran
Mamooty Amala Mounam Samadam
Murali Revathi Pagal Nilavu
VijayaKanth Radika Naanae Raja Naanae Mandiri

Shut up Arthur


It is Auto-Biography fever with Proteus and the latest on the list is Mickey Arthur former coach of Proteus. Pulling controversy has become a deliberate part of writing to get publicity. Am not against people pulling controversy but am getting upset when people judge others behavior and particularly I get double angry if it happens to Indians. Arthur has criticised Indian youngsters and this he was is written in his Book;

The youngsters in the Indian cricket team lack “grace and humility” when they celebrate victory, feels former South African coach Mickey Arthur.

Arthur has recalled a 2008 series against the Indians and criticised their celebrations after notching up a series-levelling win.

“The behaviour of the (Indian) younger players in the aftermath of victory was absolutely extraordinary,” Arthur wrote as he reminisced about the third and final Test in Kanpur in 2008 in which the home side tied the series.

“They ran around screaming, shouting and cheering as though they had just won the World Cup. Perhaps what made me cringe was the shock of seeing a celebration style so different from our own, but I found the practice of spraying each other with Coke and Fanta very hard to understand. But, then again, why should that be so different to our custom of using champagne?”

“It was the lack of grace and humility that I found most galling,” he said

“It’s hard to control your emotions at the moment of triumph and in the immediate aftermath of a Test victory because so much emotional and physical effort goes into it.

“But four or five minutes later it’s important to acknowledge that your vanquished opponents have also expended a lot of effort, and that it takes two teams to produce a contest,” he added.

However, the former Proteas coach praised the senior players in the Indian team, saying, “It was notable that Sachin (Tendulkar), along with other senior players like Rahul Dravid, MS Dhoni and (Sourav) Ganguly, were not involved in the cacophony.”

“But the youngsters simply couldn’t calm down, and seemed to work themselves up into an ever-greater state of delirium the more they tried to rub our noses in defeat,” he said.

Arthur said he asked the South Africa team to take a lesson out of the exercise.

“I asked as many players as I could to watch the commotion, rather than to avert their eyes and to remember it the next time we played,” Arthur said.

My point is what is wrong in celebrating things the way we want… Why these whites have superiority complex? Don’t we have individuality to express things the way we need…

All I’ve to tell Mr.Arthur is to Shut his A$$ and mind his business… Our people know what to do & how to do…

OBAMA Mania


I’ve been on TV on all three days since it was a long festival holiday. Diwali fever was overshadowed by Obama mania. All news channels were following the US president and almost all local news were pushed behind. Even India – NZ news took a beating as I didn’t see any update on score or panel review after the match which is a common phenominon.

It was interesting to see News channels creating debates starting from;

  • Obama’s Protectionalism Policy.
  • Obama’s stand on Pakistan & China.
  • Obama’s election defeat and its impact on his India visit.

and more… There were opinions from politicians, bureaucrats, entrepreneurs & activists… It was interesting to see the perspective of different segments of people…

Though it was interesting to watch all those debates, followup on the Presidents activities & transcripts of his meeting with PM were interesting and helped me to pass my time. It became boring over a point because things were Over Covered & Over Publicized.