So… We Don’t Talk About That Anymore?


The other day, my gym trainer — who also happens to be a good friend — casually said something that got me thinking. We were chatting about life, routines, and the things no one usually says out loud.

“Ever since our son was born, my wife just isn’t interested anymore,” he said, almost like he was talking about a new diet plan that didn’t work.

No drama. No complaints. Just a fact.

And honestly, it made sense. Life changes after kids. Sleepless nights, endless responsibilities, emotional burnout — romance quietly steps aside while survival takes the front seat.

But does that mean the marriage is broken? I don’t think so.

We’re quick to judge a relationship by how “romantic” or “exciting” it looks from the outside. But in reality, many couples go through long dry patches — emotionally and physically. And often, it’s not about lack of love. It’s exhaustion, stress, changing priorities… sometimes even unspoken resentment.

What stuck with me was how normal he made it sound — no blaming, no overthinking. Just a phase that needs attention. Not counselling, not therapy right away. Maybe just a small conversation that starts with:

“Hey, I miss us.”

Sometimes, that’s all it takes. Not to fix everything, but to stop drifting further.

We all have seasons in relationships. What matters is whether we bother to notice when winter drags on too long.

When Passion Meets Practicality: A Silent Test of Marriage


In Indian arranged marriages, your first meeting with your future wife often happens in a temple, surrounded by her relatives and yours, all watching closely. When I first met my wife like this, I didn’t make any big promises. I just told her honestly that entrepreneurship was my passion and that I would need her extra support to succeed.

She agreed. We got married. And for the first six years, it felt like life had blessed us. The business was thriving, money was flowing, and the house was filled with laughter. In those days, support was easy because success made everything look shiny.

But the real test of any relationship isn’t when you’re flying high — it’s when you crash.

When business challenges started piling up, everything changed. Debts, setbacks, betrayals — my dream began to crumble, and with it, so did the sense of security in our home.

Yet, she stood by me. She didn’t pack her bags or run away. In fact, after an eight-year career gap spent raising our kids, she took up a job to support the family. That move alone deserves more respect than any applause I’ve ever received in my entrepreneurial journey.

But support has layers. While she stood strong on the outside, inside there were storms. She wanted me to take up a job, to drop the dream, to “be practical” for the sake of the family. There were fights, emotional distance, and moments when we felt like strangers living under the same roof.

From her side, it made sense. She saw stability as love, and she believed protecting the kids from uncertainty was her duty. From her view, why should anyone hold on to a passion so stubbornly when it meant risking everything?

From my side, quitting wasn’t an option. Entrepreneurship wasn’t a hobby — it was who I am. If I gave up on it, I wouldn’t just lose a business; I would lose myself. I believed true happiness can exist even in simplicity or poverty, as long as you’re true to your soul’s calling.

I often asked myself: *Who is cruel here? Who is right?*

The truth is, neither of us was wrong. We were just two people trying to survive in our own ways. She fought for emotional and financial security; I fought for identity and purpose.

Marriage is often painted as a journey of compromise. But sometimes, it’s a silent negotiation between two very different worlds: passion and practicality.

She may never fully understand why I chose to stay on this rocky path. And I may never fully understand her fear of instability. But in those differences, there’s a story of two people who didn’t give up on each other — even when they didn’t fully agree.

Alaipayuthey – A Tale of Love, Marriage, and Relationships


Alaipayuthey is a Tamil-language romantic drama film directed by Mani Ratnam, which was released in 2000. The movie tells the story of a young couple, Karthik and Shakthi, who fall in love and get married against their parent’s wishes. As they try to navigate the challenges of married life, they are forced to confront the realities of adulthood and the complexities of human relationships.

The movie begins with Karthik, played by Madhavan, meeting Shakthi, played by Shalini, on a train ride in Chennai. Their initial interactions are awkward and hesitant, but they are drawn to each other’s company. As they part ways, they exchange phone numbers and begin talking to each other regularly. Soon, they realize they are in love and decide to get married.

However, their parents are against it as they come from different social backgrounds. Despite their parents’ objections, Karthik and Shakthi elope and get married. They begin their life together, but their happiness is short-lived as they soon realize that marriage is not just about love, but also about understanding and compromise.

The movie beautifully depicts the struggles of a young couple trying to make their marriage work. From adjusting to each other’s families to managing their careers and finances, Karthik and Shakthi face a variety of challenges that put their relationship to the test.

As the story progresses, we see the couple’s relationship mature and evolve. They learn to communicate better, understand each other’s needs, and work through their issues. However, their relationship is tested once again when Shakthi is involved in a serious accident that leaves her in a coma. Karthik is forced to confront the possibility of losing his wife and the regret of not having fully appreciated her while she was still with him.

Alaipayuthey is a touching and emotional story that highlights the beauty and complexity of love and relationships. The film’s music, composed by A.R. Rahman, is an absolute treat and perfectly captures the emotions of the characters. The chemistry between Madhavan and Shalini is also noteworthy, and their performances are heartfelt.

Overall, Alaipayuthey is a must-watch for anyone who believes in the power of love and the importance of communication and understanding in relationships. It is a timeless classic that will continue to be cherished by audiences for generations to come.

What happened to my BLOGGING??


Once blogging use to be a habit without which I couldn’t close my day!! It was real hard practice, perceivarance and discipline which helped to make it a habit!!! Over all this habit helped me in;

  • Improving my communication skills!!
  • Improved my vocabulary!!!
  • Expressing my thoughts!!
  • Documenting my daily life!!
  • Experiencing Challenges!!
  • Getting New Friends!!
  • Becoming Open & Transparent!!
  • Venting out frustration!!

As days passed this habit slowly became an addiction!!! This addiction made;

  • Me stretch my day to finish my blog post!!
  • Me depressed if I fail to make a blog post!!
  • Me do unwanted things to make a blog post!!
  • Me too transparent and open person!!
  • Me loose my reputation sometimes!!

In spite of all those negatives it helped me feel free and expose my rightful image. I was able to move without carrying any burden on my shoulder!!! 

But I wanted to stop blogging for some time because I thought that I should not get addicted to anything or do anything because of addiction!! So, I voluntarily stopped blogging for some time!!

By the time I got convinced that I was de-addicted and ready to start my blogging I got married.. Then on I couldn’t be the same transparent and open person.. There were things which my wife couldn’t tolerate and accept.. I had to hide things to her in order to avoid hurting her.. I fell into the trap of mediocrity!! So, I couldn’t blog any longer 😦

Frankly I do not want to show prejudice between my wife and parents.. I want to be the same transparent person the way I did with my parents..

Today while I was driving back alone from my wife’s native to Madurai I was thinking;

  • Why I stopped blogging for marriage?? 
  • Was I right or wrong in doing so??

Then I realised that the relationship and bond we carry with our parents are naturally stiched and we dare to take it for granted.. But with marriage we are building a bond which has to carefully crafted and stiched!!

I feel it was better sacrifice to hold my blog and my natural trait for the sake of building a relationship!! 

Not sure how far we have crossed as a couple and the depth in our bond??

Should I start Blogging or Wait for some more time??

Just want to try it out with small doses 🙂

Hope Yamuna reads this blog sometime or some day and makes a comment 🙂

How to live a happy married life


Marriage is the most needed thing of our social life and every person wants to live a successful married life so that he can live happily with peace. Chanakaya has given many secrets for a successful marriage in Chanakaya Niti.

While every man wants to marry a beautiful girl but Chanakya has told otherwise. He says that if a girl is beautiful but does not belong to a good family then do not marry with her. He said we should marry with a girl of a good family even if she is not beautiful. He said the marriage should done in a family which is equal to our family.

Chanakaya said the love between husband and wife is the most successful reason behind marriage.

He said the real happiness of a wife lies in the serving of her husband and it is the Swarag of the wife.

He said a successful wife is that who is honest and clever. A wife should love his husband and speak the truth. This kind of behavior of a wife brings happiness to the family.

He says that the wise people should not quarrel over the talks of women as it brings sorrows in the family.

A woman should understand any work done by her with the consent of her husband is beneficial to her and family.

A husband should always protect his wife with his money etc.

A daughter should be married in a good family.

A wife should not quarrel with her husband without any reason.

The couples can live happily by keeping in mind the secrets told by the Great Chanakaya.

Who is really SETTLED???


I got a call from my class mate and a good buddy… But we couldn’t interact frequently owing to career path… What started to be like a courtesy call ended up as an argument as who is settled in our own terms…

At some point in our conversation my friend stated that he is not frequenting me and for school get togehters because he is no settled in life unlike me… I got startled when I heard that from him as my MOM use to compare me with him claiming my friend is settled unlike me…

According to my mom my friend is having a decent job, a decent pay, got married & has got a kid… My mom always screams that I’m not settled like my school buddy…

But when my friend claimed he is not settled like me… I get really shocked… I for sure understood he means monetary status as settled… He feels a person should get married until he is financially independent… He said I’m right in delaying my marriage to get financially independent… My friend strongly feels attaining financial independence is real SETTLED…

Many times my mom use to ask me what am I going to do with all these money without a family… Number of times she advised me to wind my business and take up a job… My parents use to say they were not rich or financially stable when my and my sister was born… For them a person with a family even if he is not financially stable is real SETTLED…

This is a story of true perceptions… I’m seeing a person who is not happy because he is not financially independent thought he has a good family… I’ve seen the experience of another who experienced happiness in family than their financial independence…

Now I’ve to choose or find which perception is suited for me??? Am I SETTLED or not???

Why wedding ring is worn on the fourth finger…its very interesting!!!


This is interesting Try it out !

Why should the wedding ring be worn on the fourth finger?
There is a beautiful and convincing explanation given by the Chinese…..

  • Thumb represents your Parents…
  • Second (Index) finger represents your Siblings…
  • Middle finger represents your-Self…
  • Fourth (Ring) finger represents your Life Partner & the Last (Little) finger represents your children…
  • Firstly, open your palms (face to face), bend the middle fingers and hold them together – back to back…
  • Secondly, open and hold the remaining three fingers and the thumb – tip to tip…

(As shown in the figure below):

Now, try to separate your thumbs (representing the parents)…, they will open, because your parents are not destined to live with you lifelong, and have to leave you sooner or later.

Please join your thumbs as before and separate your Index fingers (representing siblings)…., they will also open, because your brothers and sisters will have their own families and will have to lead their own separate lives.

Now join the Index fingers and separate your Little fingers (representing your children)…., they will open too, because the children also will get married and settle down on their own some day.

Finally, join your Little fingers, and try to separate your Ring fingers (representing your spouse).
You will be surprised to see that you just CANNOT….., because Husband & Wife have to remain together all their lives – through thick and thin!!

Please try this out………….
ISN’T THIS A LOVELY THEORY?

Vibes or Co-incedence


Yesterday I was talking about my perception about marriage & why I’m delaying my marriage… For long there has never been any pressure from my parents… But today when I got up it was my father who came to me asking if I could spend some time with him… Immediately I thought it was going to be about my marriage… I’ve never seen him so dull in my life & his points were;

  • I’m getting aged and choices were getting dim…
  • They have a responsibility to full-fill…
  • He believes that a women is needed in a man’s life to be disciplined…

This was one emotional issues I’ve to handle… I know my parents have their own point of view and they want to full-fill their responsibility… But I’ve my point of view which I know they are not going to buy it…

Still I don’t know if i’m prepared for a marriage… I’m not sure if I can full-fill the responsibility as a husband or a father as I’m so irresponsible… Also I enjoy being irresponsible and still not having the feel of getting married…

Now it is time to make a call if I must fall for my parents emotions or live the life I like…

Mens perspective


  • When a man steals your wife, there is no better revenge than to let him keep her.
    David Bissonette
  • After marriage, husband and wife become two sides of a coin; they just can’t face each other, but still they stay together.
    Sacha Guitry
  • By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you’ll be happy. If you get a bad one, you’ll become a philosopher.
    Socrates
  • Woman inspires us to great things, and prevents us from achieving them.
    Anonymous
  • The great question… which I have not been able to answer… is, “What does a woman want?
    Dumas
  • I had some words with my wife, and she had some paragraphs with me.
    Sigmund Freud
  • I’ve had bad luck with both my wives. The first one left me, and the second one didn’t.”
    James Holt McGavra
  • Two secrets to keep your marriage brimming
    1. Whenever you’re wrong, admit it,
    2. Whenever you’re right, shut up.
    Patrick Murra
  • The most effective way to remember your wife’s birthday is to forget it once…
    Nash
  • You know what I did before I married? Anything I wanted to.
    Anonymous
  • My wife and I were happy for twenty years. Then we met.
    Henny Youngman
  • A man inserted an ‘ad’ in the classifieds: “Wife wanted”. Next day he received a hundred letters. They all said the same thing: “You can have mine.”
    Anonymous
  • First Guy (proudly): “My wife’s an angel!”Second Guy: “You’re lucky, mine’s still alive.”
    Anonymous

Mr & Miss.Anonymous


Caution

Both the characters in this post are fictional. It doesn’t describe any individual nor it is real. Written purely on the imagination of the  BLLOGGER.

This is reply to Miss.Anonymous on what made him like her??

First Mr.Anonymous went to meet her to tell he was not interested to get married now because;

  • His Bachelor life was still going very strong and he was not feeling a need for a companion.
  • He felt still he was not mentally mature to get married.
  • He wanted to take a break for 6 months form mainstream life and stay in a Buddhist Monastery & lead a life of a monk just like his icon Steve Jobs before marriage.
  • He wanted to get married at the age of 36 because that is when Sergey Brim got married.

But the moment when he met her in person there was something that flashed on the mind of Mr.Anonymous which said “if he had to me successful in pursuing his dreams then he had to go for her”. It was a intuition based decision which got flashed for a second.

He went ahead and accepted for a proposal which he has not planned for the moment.

There must also be some magic with Miss. Anonymous who made the unexpected.