Friends, Politics and Social Media: Can We Disagree and Still Coexist?


There was a time in India when people with completely different political opinions still remained close friends.

One person voted Congress.
Another supported BJP.
Someone else supported DMK.
One was deeply religious.
Another was secular.

Yet:

  • they attended weddings together,
  • worked together,
  • helped each other in business,
  • had tea shop debates,
  • argued loudly,
  • and still remained connected.

Politics was just one part of life, not the entire identity of a person.

But social media slowly changed this culture.

Today, a political opinion is no longer seen as “just an opinion.” It has become an emotional identity marker. The moment someone openly supports a political party or reacts to a religious issue, people start placing them into categories and labels.

This is where the real pain begins.

In my case, I have many close Muslim and Christian friends — friends from work, business, ex-employees and social circles. I never questioned their religious practices or political preferences. I never had a problem if they supported Congress or DMK.

But when I openly supported BJP or reacted when I felt Hindu beliefs were mocked or insulted, suddenly the reactions changed.

Some called me and expressed disappointment.
Some unfriended me silently.
Some stopped engaging completely.
Some branded me a “Sanghi.”

That word itself is often used today as if it is meant to socially isolate someone.

The irony is: supporting a political party in a democracy should be normal.

is not a banned organization or an underground movement. It is a democratically elected political party, just like or .

Then why has society become emotionally uncomfortable with political differences?

That is the bigger question.

I realized this issue is no longer just about BJP, Congress, religion or ideology. The deeper issue is that society is slowly losing the ability to coexist despite disagreement.

Earlier we had emotional maturity to separate:

  • friendship from politics,
  • people from opinions,
  • relationships from ideology.

Today social media mixes everything together.

Algorithms reward outrage.
Politics becomes identity.
Identity becomes emotion.
Emotion becomes division.

Even normal people slowly become emotionally reactive online.

A person who would happily sit and have coffee with you in real life may still get disturbed by your political post online.

That is the strange contradiction of the social media era.

The dangerous part is not disagreement. Disagreement is healthy in a democracy.

The dangerous part is emotional isolation.

When people stop expressing openly:

  • resentment builds silently,
  • echo chambers grow,
  • society becomes polarized,
  • and friendships become conditional.

Maybe a healthier society is not one where everyone agrees.

Maybe a healthier society is one where:

  • people openly express opinions,
  • disagree strongly,
  • debate emotionally,
  • cool down,
  • and still remain human with one another afterward.

India survived for centuries because of coexistence despite differences in:

  • religion,
  • language,
  • caste,
  • food,
  • region,
  • and politics.

“Unity in diversity” is not about similarity.
It is about emotional maturity despite differences.

Social media has tested that maturity.

Now society must evolve again.

Because if friendships cannot survive political disagreement, then politics has become bigger than humanity itself.

World is moving towards the RIGHT!!


Right WingUP!!! India’s largest state in terms of Size, Population and Minority influence has given a clear mandate to Right Wing BJP!!

After a week of deliberations the party has announced Yogi Adityanath, an extreme Right Wing activist as the Chief Minister designate!!

Already Social Media & News channels are up with their Ante!! But I’m not going to talk about the good or bad about Yogi nor going to give my opinion on things that is going to shape India!!!

But I’m curious to know if the world is changing?? Almost every country is moving towards the Right!!!

  1. I’d consider Donald Trumph’s campaign and win as Right Wing wave!!
  2. Britain went with Right Wing Theresa May!!
  3. Germany is with Angela Merkel!!

Right Wing is becoming a global phenomenon and are the liberals missing a point here??

Though I’m not an expert in this topic, I see minority appeasement is bringing the rise of Right Wing!!

Let us see how this world is shaping up in the next decade!!

The Three Chaiwalas!!!


Today I’m seriously considering to enter politics!!! Want to see if luck will favour another Chaiwala!!!

Power of democracy


It was a months wait & we were eagerly waiting for something we were expecting… Though as an amateur I found most of my exit polling with friends let to a clear mandate… I was a bit worried about the money power & coalition dynamics of DMK… I represented a bubch of normal man’s anger that led to the failure of DMK… These are the factors that led me to vote against the ruling party;

  • Corruption related to 2G…
  • Big family dynasty politics & atrocities of the family folks… Almost they were behaving like kings in a Kingdom…
  • Family domination of Movies…
  • Frequent power failures….
  • Domination of Real Estate….
  • Polarizing people on the basis of Caste…

What ever it is it was a clear single largest mandate… But I didn’t expect DMK to become 3rd largest party falling behind a 5 year old DMDK…

Finally DMK has paid heavily & they have been taught what Democracy is…

I wish AMMA for her success & wish she gives a good rule which doesn’t involve into vendetta politics…

Butterfly Theory Politics in Andra


Yesterday two of my school mates joined me for dinner. We were discussing several things starting from schooling days to the days of struggle to create an identity in our career to current days. Some how things changed to Tamil Nadu politics and moved to Andra Pradesh politics. One of my friend hails from Andra and he said following points;

  • Y.S.Rajashekara Reddy death is a murder and that is plotted by Congress because of his growing influence in Andra and his autocratic approach with the high command.
  • Then the telengana issue was started by Y.S.R’s son Jegan to gain control over the power held by his father.
  • Then a following religious clashes subsided telengana issue.

Considering the above said points it all coincides and looks like politics shown in cinema. What ever it is politicians are making bhakra of people.

AMMA addressed gathering in Madurai!!!


Yesterday leader of AIADMK J.Jailalitha (AMMA) addressed a gathering in Madurai… The dais was stone throwing distance from our office… By evening the read leading to our office was blocked… The road is called North Veli Street and road is the heart line of Madurai as it connects to Madurai Railway Junction and Central Bus Stop…

The arrangements for the dais were happening from yesterday morning and today it was spectacular with lightings and there were loads of supporters who crowded the entire stretch…

Today AMMA reached the dais by evening and I think her address was more than 30 minutes… As I was not allowed to take camera beyond a point I was unable to shoot while she was addressing the gathering… But I took a snap from my office terrace unfortunately the picture was shacked…

Here are some snaps which I shot…

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AMMA returning after returning from the gathering… The picture got shaked…

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This is 1/10th of the crowd that attended the gathering…

Meet Capt. Gopinath


Meet Capt. Gopinath this Friday; listen to his views on Entrepreneurship, Leadership and Politics.

Capt. Gopinath has revolutionized the Aviation sector in India, how did he go about it, and what values, beliefs and methods did he use to do this and can he do the same with Politics?

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