Category: Personal

Weekend Plans were Screwed


After a long time I’m having a bored weekend at Madurai. After relocating back to Chennai a year back I use to complete my trips during weekdays & return to Chennai to enjoy weekends.

This time I planned to mix my trip with a weekend because planned for a trip to Kuttralam or Kumily.

But all plans were screwed by a friend who spent major part of his previous week at Kodaikanal. Also he never hinted that he is going to screw the plan.

Last 3 days we met for dinner and dispersed. Some spice were missing in our meetings. Even today we went for lunch & had a afternoon nap & they went back home.

Finally I had Major for rescue. Went to Coffee Float, a walk at race course road & a walk in our area. It was a nice 4 hour where we were sharing out personal life experience, some official & some nostalgic discussions.

Some how I passed the weekend & its time to concentrate & finish my visits purpose in next two days.

Pathetic Maintenance of Big Cinemas


Exactly a year I was thrilled to see the Launch of new twin screen by BIG cinemas. This cinemas is the first multiplex for Madurai and they have credits of launching best Hindi movies.

They have scrutinising process before entering the screen & cigarettes, hans, pan parag etc were not allowed.

• To my surprise we were not screened this time.
• Toilets were badly maintained & it stinks. Totally unusable.
• Even there is some bad smell inside the theatre.
• Seats were also not maintained properly.

It is sad to see such corporate run theatres falling short of maintenance. This is where Satyam Cinemas rocks over Inox / PVR / BIG.

Chaotic trip of Madurai


It all started when i realized that I left my house keys (Madurai) in my car only after boarding the bus. It was too late then to coordinate & collect the keys. Also the keys were not in my office. Finally it was with a friend and thankfully his house was near the bus route and I collected his Scooter & house keys.

Upon reaching home  was shocked to see the state of home… All doors & windows were open with A/C & fan running. All the mattresses & pillows were clumsy and dirty. Floors were full of dust. Rest rooms were also nasty. Had to start the day by cleaning the house. Had to disturb Major to make some arrangements for washing pillow cowers & mattresses. Then I swiped the floor and mobbed & still it is in a bad state. Requested my admin clean the house.

Then when i wanted to brush found that my mom has not kept the brush in the bag. Also when i went to take bath towels were not kept. Normally my mom use to do that for me and she is good at that. For some reasons she was busy yesterday and things were messed up.

Overall these days when I come to Madurai house-keeping tasks becomes my first day work before starting my official duties. I can say I’m only 50% settled and by evening things must be ready.

Also with all these rush came to office without having breakfast. Just ordered for a sandwich & time to prioritize my tasks.

Mr & Miss.Anonymous


Caution

Both the characters in this post are fictional. It doesn’t describe any individual nor it is real. Written purely on the imagination of the  BLLOGGER.

This is reply to Miss.Anonymous on what made him like her??

First Mr.Anonymous went to meet her to tell he was not interested to get married now because;

  • His Bachelor life was still going very strong and he was not feeling a need for a companion.
  • He felt still he was not mentally mature to get married.
  • He wanted to take a break for 6 months form mainstream life and stay in a Buddhist Monastery & lead a life of a monk just like his icon Steve Jobs before marriage.
  • He wanted to get married at the age of 36 because that is when Sergey Brim got married.

But the moment when he met her in person there was something that flashed on the mind of Mr.Anonymous which said “if he had to me successful in pursuing his dreams then he had to go for her”. It was a intuition based decision which got flashed for a second.

He went ahead and accepted for a proposal which he has not planned for the moment.

There must also be some magic with Miss. Anonymous who made the unexpected.

It is time to stop helping friends monetarily


I know it would be rude on my part o make this post. But my frustration had gone sky high and i want to break it some how and i don’t have another choice other than to write about it here.

Till now I’ve lent money to many of my friends and that is the tune of Rs.2,00,000/-. The timing of the help was at a time when they needed it and now when I’m in need of the money and when I ask then to repay what I’ve lent their behavior upsets me.

Normally when I lend money I do it that I might not get the money back. But I in less than a month I’ve helped a friend by making a payment using my credit card. Now he has not returned the money back and I have to pay the interest for 40K which i”ve used from that card.

Another friend of mine had got money from me 2 years back promised to return it within a month. Now when I call him he keeps dragging by telling he will give it in a day or two. But i’ve not got my money back.

There are more such stories but the result is the same. So, from now i’ve decided no to help anyone monetarily.

An Exciting Day with great Composure


Always i rejoice days where i worked with full satisfaction. I carry that happy moments along with me & will funny & accommodating.

But I don’t know what happened today. I wanted to be calm, silent & serious. Without me realizing I had a wonderful day at work and i did following tasks today;

  • Browsed Cogzidel.in & collected around 20 things which were bugs, suggestions & feedback for improvement.
  • Wrote a case-study for Cogzidel Consultancy Services Pvt. Ltd.
  • Coordinated with Madurai folks who made me Happy by launching new product for CogzidelTemplates.Com.
  • Had a productive meeting with my CTO where we discussed;
    • Speeding delivery of projects.
    • Road map for Sales Improvement.
    • Ideas for new products.
    • Plan for Development for Internal Framework.
  • Had meeting with my CFO to discuss about;
    • Status of fun raising.
    • Collected tough cases faced to write case studies.
  • Even before writing this blog finished writing one another case study.

This is supposed to be a fulfilling day for anyone and anyone must feel high. But for me everything looks normal and I’m not that excited. I normally go out to watch some movie when I’m sad or very much excited. Today i got a call from my friend to go for a movie which i turned down.

But i feel happy because the new change in me is only taking me in the right path.

Yet another Work from Home


Today i had to settle to work from home. As both of my cars were off for service & the two wheeler is used by my sister. It is hard to believe how vehicles have become lifeline of our life.

There were times where I used public transport and there was no private vehicles. I got offer from many friends who spared their vehicle. Again my laziness to goto their home and collect the vehicle has made me sit and work from home.

But i made use of the time by having a facial done.

IBCD Generation


We all have heard about ABCD (American Born Confused Desis)… But offlate I see a lot of IBCD (Indian Born Confused Desis) including me. Yep i think we are in a generation where we are caught between Indian family values and the western culture which is getting embedded into our lifestyle.

Discos, Pub-culture, Private Parties, Western wear, Group outings et more have all started to become of lifestyle in this decade. Youths of this generation have been exposed to this new found entertainment and this has made them totally confused in balancing their new generation lifestyle with the indian family lifestyle.

This has posted a new challenge to this new generation when it comes to finding their match. This NG has been blessed with the opportunity to network, get acquainted, develop friendship, extend it to LOVE. But here comes the problem;

  • First they have too much options as they meet more people and they endup meeting a couple of people sharing common thoughts or people whom they have longed to form a relationship.
  • Second is to align their romantic life with the Family culture.

Most of my friends lack a lot of clarity while deciding their limits. They end up quarreling while deciding to draw their boundaries. Because of availability of options to form new relationships they end up breaking for small & silly quarrels. This has left a lot of people having strained relationship and made them a confused folk who are very poor in making decision.

One main reason for all this is because of getting raised in a Value System and suddenly jumping into a lifestyle which we were always told is not good or not a part of our life style. It is high time that our education system takes note of this new problem among Indian youth and start addressing the issue. Also there must be awareness programs / camps on the subject.

Until then I don’t see any respite as we are getting more western with our SKIN & stay Indian with our flesh. So, the sad part is when we peel the skin it pains, of we remove the flesh we die.

So we are all living a life by peeling our skin and accepting the trauma of pain to avoid death.

My car engine seized


It is a tough time for me to commute. I didn’t realize that my small car’s (Zen) coolant water & engine oil got drained & I drove my car too much that the engine got seized. The result is;

  • Engine reboring takes 25 days.
  • Cost of repair is projected to be Rs.35,000/-

This experience made my check my big car & even that was running dry & I filled coolant & engine oil. Coming monday i’ve to leave my Big car for service too & i don’t have a vehicle to commute.

If any of you can spare me your two wheeler for 2 days that would be of great help to me.

How to cope up with failed love?


Now many people can cope up with failed / strained relationship. When i came to know about suicide of model Viveka Babajee I thought I must openup. I can understand how it pains with my personal experience. How I felt at that time was;

  • Was unable to accept the reality that the relationship is over. Kept thinking that some miracle would happen & the person would revert back.
  • Was always living on the virtual world with the golden memories spent with the person.
  • Wanted to be alone. Not even with close friends.
  • Felt there was no meaning in living.
  • All the better memories and better things on hand became valueless.
  • Thought of ending life also prevailed on the corner of the mind.
  • Brain stopped working.
  • Didn’t feel like going to office, work, sleep, eat etc.

To keep it short I became like a living dead body. All i ask such people is to hold the nerve. There is definitely good in every bad. But we have to live to see all the exciting new things.

After overcoming months of pain. I came across lot of good humans whom i’d have missed if I stayed with the person. I’m happy today that I got a lot of deserving things for the loss I had and sure to get more too.

These are the things I did to overcome the tough phase;

  • I travelled to places where I’ve never been with my ex;
  • Moved to a place which was totally NEW. The place didn’t give me any memories of the past.
  • Created an hobby in Blogging to express my thought. This was one medium which was really helpful.
  • Developed another hobby in photography & vagabond travel.
  • Joined a GYM.

Overall I kept myself engaged fully that I didn’t have time to think about her and over time we get beautiful things what were worth than the loss.

Last thing is we must not forget that the person who had left us has a lot to loose than us. Experience of over coming tough patch of life is a wonderful feel. We must be gifted to get to feel the fain in it. And i’m happy for what has happened to me.

For people who had broken relationships move ahead! experience! and document your experience for others.