Category: Personal

It is time to stop helping friends monetarily


I know it would be rude on my part o make this post. But my frustration had gone sky high and i want to break it some how and i don’t have another choice other than to write about it here.

Till now I’ve lent money to many of my friends and that is the tune of Rs.2,00,000/-. The timing of the help was at a time when they needed it and now when I’m in need of the money and when I ask then to repay what I’ve lent their behavior upsets me.

Normally when I lend money I do it that I might not get the money back. But I in less than a month I’ve helped a friend by making a payment using my credit card. Now he has not returned the money back and I have to pay the interest for 40K which i”ve used from that card.

Another friend of mine had got money from me 2 years back promised to return it within a month. Now when I call him he keeps dragging by telling he will give it in a day or two. But i’ve not got my money back.

There are more such stories but the result is the same. So, from now i’ve decided no to help anyone monetarily.

An Exciting Day with great Composure


Always i rejoice days where i worked with full satisfaction. I carry that happy moments along with me & will funny & accommodating.

But I don’t know what happened today. I wanted to be calm, silent & serious. Without me realizing I had a wonderful day at work and i did following tasks today;

  • Browsed Cogzidel.in & collected around 20 things which were bugs, suggestions & feedback for improvement.
  • Wrote a case-study for Cogzidel Consultancy Services Pvt. Ltd.
  • Coordinated with Madurai folks who made me Happy by launching new product for CogzidelTemplates.Com.
  • Had a productive meeting with my CTO where we discussed;
    • Speeding delivery of projects.
    • Road map for Sales Improvement.
    • Ideas for new products.
    • Plan for Development for Internal Framework.
  • Had meeting with my CFO to discuss about;
    • Status of fun raising.
    • Collected tough cases faced to write case studies.
  • Even before writing this blog finished writing one another case study.

This is supposed to be a fulfilling day for anyone and anyone must feel high. But for me everything looks normal and I’m not that excited. I normally go out to watch some movie when I’m sad or very much excited. Today i got a call from my friend to go for a movie which i turned down.

But i feel happy because the new change in me is only taking me in the right path.

Yet another Work from Home


Today i had to settle to work from home. As both of my cars were off for service & the two wheeler is used by my sister. It is hard to believe how vehicles have become lifeline of our life.

There were times where I used public transport and there was no private vehicles. I got offer from many friends who spared their vehicle. Again my laziness to goto their home and collect the vehicle has made me sit and work from home.

But i made use of the time by having a facial done.

IBCD Generation


We all have heard about ABCD (American Born Confused Desis)… But offlate I see a lot of IBCD (Indian Born Confused Desis) including me. Yep i think we are in a generation where we are caught between Indian family values and the western culture which is getting embedded into our lifestyle.

Discos, Pub-culture, Private Parties, Western wear, Group outings et more have all started to become of lifestyle in this decade. Youths of this generation have been exposed to this new found entertainment and this has made them totally confused in balancing their new generation lifestyle with the indian family lifestyle.

This has posted a new challenge to this new generation when it comes to finding their match. This NG has been blessed with the opportunity to network, get acquainted, develop friendship, extend it to LOVE. But here comes the problem;

  • First they have too much options as they meet more people and they endup meeting a couple of people sharing common thoughts or people whom they have longed to form a relationship.
  • Second is to align their romantic life with the Family culture.

Most of my friends lack a lot of clarity while deciding their limits. They end up quarreling while deciding to draw their boundaries. Because of availability of options to form new relationships they end up breaking for small & silly quarrels. This has left a lot of people having strained relationship and made them a confused folk who are very poor in making decision.

One main reason for all this is because of getting raised in a Value System and suddenly jumping into a lifestyle which we were always told is not good or not a part of our life style. It is high time that our education system takes note of this new problem among Indian youth and start addressing the issue. Also there must be awareness programs / camps on the subject.

Until then I don’t see any respite as we are getting more western with our SKIN & stay Indian with our flesh. So, the sad part is when we peel the skin it pains, of we remove the flesh we die.

So we are all living a life by peeling our skin and accepting the trauma of pain to avoid death.

My car engine seized


It is a tough time for me to commute. I didn’t realize that my small car’s (Zen) coolant water & engine oil got drained & I drove my car too much that the engine got seized. The result is;

  • Engine reboring takes 25 days.
  • Cost of repair is projected to be Rs.35,000/-

This experience made my check my big car & even that was running dry & I filled coolant & engine oil. Coming monday i’ve to leave my Big car for service too & i don’t have a vehicle to commute.

If any of you can spare me your two wheeler for 2 days that would be of great help to me.

How to cope up with failed love?


Now many people can cope up with failed / strained relationship. When i came to know about suicide of model Viveka Babajee I thought I must openup. I can understand how it pains with my personal experience. How I felt at that time was;

  • Was unable to accept the reality that the relationship is over. Kept thinking that some miracle would happen & the person would revert back.
  • Was always living on the virtual world with the golden memories spent with the person.
  • Wanted to be alone. Not even with close friends.
  • Felt there was no meaning in living.
  • All the better memories and better things on hand became valueless.
  • Thought of ending life also prevailed on the corner of the mind.
  • Brain stopped working.
  • Didn’t feel like going to office, work, sleep, eat etc.

To keep it short I became like a living dead body. All i ask such people is to hold the nerve. There is definitely good in every bad. But we have to live to see all the exciting new things.

After overcoming months of pain. I came across lot of good humans whom i’d have missed if I stayed with the person. I’m happy today that I got a lot of deserving things for the loss I had and sure to get more too.

These are the things I did to overcome the tough phase;

  • I travelled to places where I’ve never been with my ex;
  • Moved to a place which was totally NEW. The place didn’t give me any memories of the past.
  • Created an hobby in Blogging to express my thought. This was one medium which was really helpful.
  • Developed another hobby in photography & vagabond travel.
  • Joined a GYM.

Overall I kept myself engaged fully that I didn’t have time to think about her and over time we get beautiful things what were worth than the loss.

Last thing is we must not forget that the person who had left us has a lot to loose than us. Experience of over coming tough patch of life is a wonderful feel. We must be gifted to get to feel the fain in it. And i’m happy for what has happened to me.

For people who had broken relationships move ahead! experience! and document your experience for others.

A half-baked day


I must be angry on myself as today has been an half baked day :(;

  • Woke up late and was late by an hour for Bala’s meeting.
  • Had to cancel an important meeting with Bala half way as i had a sudden appointment from a candidate whom i’ve planned to hire for Sales position.
  • When I selling CCS and vision to the candidate she got a call from her boss who asked her to report immediately to office  and she had to leave half way.
  • Being frustrated I drove back to office only to notice office was closed and I didn’t have the keys. Overall making it an unnecessary drive.
  • Then wanted to chill and went to pick my friend Kaviraj. Inspite of calling him 10 min before & intimating him that i’ll be in office. Got a call from him that he needs 10 min to come and i had to wait for 20 more him.
  • While waiting on the corner of the road a lady cop knocked the door asking me to leave. Making me more angry as we are loosing the freedom to even wait on the corner of the road.
  • Then went to PVR cinemas with Kavi only to find all good movies are full.
  • Then thought of discussing the strategy for Social Media School with Kavi & again we were unable to concentrate on it because of many distractions.
  • Got a call from my PM that a task I gave them was completed. After reaching home just check the task it was not working properly.

Now as a pessimist I can think this is not my day and sleep. As an optimist I can think it was a 50% successful day & one more day i can finish the balance 50% work and enjoy 100% success.

Since my blood group is B+ve I choose the second option of thinking like an optimist and end the day.

Working for Passion


For almost a year i’ve been spending more time on drive, shopping & watching movies. I got addicted to retail fobia and my expenses started to shoot-up. Also i started hating what i was doing. For some time my friend Kaviraj & I were thinking of doing something which keeps us engaged and we enjoy doing it.

A week back I got an idea of starting a School for Social Media Studies & today we took the idea to next level. The biggest challenge we have to cross is that this is a part-time initiative & a secondary commitment as we have primary business interest which cant be compromised.

Tomorrow we have decided to give it a start and work on a solution for the challenge. The concept is going to be agile and we have decided to have short milestone & vision and evolve it based on experience & demand.

Also we are planning to make this a community driven initiative and we are open for ideas and we welcome like minded individuals who had passion for Social Media & for teaching.

My goal is to work on a task which is of secondary interest and make it a success. Will share the case study if my initiative clicks.

Severe power problem


Acceptance is the greatest Sin & we indians are known for accepting things beyond limits. Last one month we have been suffering form severe power problem both at home & at office. Being an entrepreneur this is getting on to my nerves.

Yesterday night has reached a level where in would have used all ungrammatical words if Tamil Nadu’s power minister mister Arcot Veeraswamy would have come to face me. Yesterday had severe low voltage and inverter was also not working. Inverter starts sending backup power only when there is a full power cut & not for low voltage.

We were all reeling under the sweat & uneasiness from lack of air generation. I don’t know if all our ministers house is getting affected by the problem faced by a normal citizen.

Other irony is I see lots of power being stolen from local transformer to light the decorative lights on the roads to mark the birthday of our chief minister M.Karunanidhi. I just want to know who is paying for their deeds?? It is we the common man.

As a ordinary citizen of this country I stand helpless waiting for next election to teach a lesson. I don’t know if we vote for a new government can bring a solution. But at-least we have the contention of giving back to someone. I’m great admirer of this DMK government as they have brought Investments into the state, developed infrastructure. But they deserve to loose because of ignoring the power sector. They can bring the change because they are a part of the government in the centre & at power in the state.

What ever may be I stand helpless for not getting a solution today. I had disturbed sleep the whole night and suffering from headache. This is going to take a toll on my productivity & also on my health. As any normal citizen I’m writing this blog and moving away with life. As i cant do anything other that this for now.

Emergency Experience


It was saturday night & i’ve planned to party after a while. My friends & I were already in a hotel and the time we were about to enter the discotheque I got a call from my friend Sriram & Bala that they were in trouble. When i called them back i was requested to come to MIOT hospital without wasting time on phone.

Instantly we cancelled all our program and I reached MIOT hospital in 20 min. I was shocked to see some 5 of my friends bleeding and were in a critical state. Normally I’m scared to see people who have met with accidents. This time i didn’t know where i got the confidence from. I was able to handle the situation. To my surprise;

  • I saw all my friends & was able to console them.
  • I did all the documentation formalities in the Hospital.
  • Handled the COPS.

I must say doctor attending emergency patients single handedly managed the situation well with his support staff. When i left of them were taken to ICU & I reached home to take some rest.

After waking up by noon I called up folks & was glad that everyone was shifted to normal ward and everyone was out of danger.

Then i went to the hospital to meet them. By this time most of the family members were already there & my friends were screwed by their parents & wives.

Other irony for them was they were getting calls from friends & relatives and they had to explain what has happened to everyone. I think each of them would have explained the situation to friends, relatives, cops & hospital staff at-least 50 times each.

I didn’t want them to be serious and we started making joke of the situation and we all made hospital as a get-together event. Now they are all out of danger & letz prey for their speedy recovery.

Will keep you all posted about their recovery process.